{"id":20386,"date":"2021-01-19T09:02:14","date_gmt":"2021-01-19T17:02:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=20386"},"modified":"2021-05-31T07:35:44","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T14:35:44","slug":"dating-questions-to-ask","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/relationship-advice\/healthy-relationships\/dating-questions-to-ask\/","title":{"rendered":"6 Insightful Dating Questions To Ask A New Partner"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

If you\u2019ve been dating someone for a little while, you might be wondering what the <\/span>best dating questions are to ask<\/span><\/a> a new partner. You\u2019re ready to build on your initial spark, and deepen the connection you have. And there\u2019s no better way to do this than by being vulnerable with each other.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

That means being willing to actively listen to each other, open up, and receive. This builds empathy and trust between people and brings you closer together. On top of this, it\u2019s a great way to find out more about your partner and see if you\u2019re compatible for a long term relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Asking open-ended questions like these can take the conversation down many unexpected paths, and also help your partner find out a lot more about you. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

6 Insightful Dating Questions to Ask a New Partner<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. What are you too hard on yourself for?<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This question will help you figure out more about your partner than you might expect.
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Firstly, you\u2019ll get an insight into the inner workings of their mind. This will help you soothe and reassure them when they find themselves in a self-critical funk, and allow you to show them a kinder and more compassionate approach for the future.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, it will give you a clue into the expectations they have for other people, i.e. partners, friends and family. When someone is <\/span>hard on themselves<\/span><\/a>, it\u2019s likely they\u2019ll be hard on others for similar reasons.  <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. If money was no object, where would you live and what would you do?<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This feels like a fun and light-hearted question at the outset, but it will also help you understand your partner<\/a> on many levels.
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If money was no object, do you both dream of living in similar places, and leading similar lives? <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do they want to live in a big city, but you prefer the countryside? <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do they dream of running their own business and working from the beach, but you\u2019re tied to your current job and don\u2019t want to move around?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Would they stop work immediately and treat the rest of their life as a vacation, or would they keep their life exactly the way it is now?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If your answers are similar, then that\u2019s a good sign you\u2019re headed in similar directions. But if you\u2019re on completely different pages, you may need to re-think this. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. When do you feel most vulnerable?<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

There\u2019s no better question to ask to encourage your partner to be vulnerable than by literally <\/i>asking what makes them feel vulnerable<\/a>!
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Men, in particular, have learned vulnerability is a sign of weakness, and that they must appear strong at all costs. So if your partner struggles to share this with you, give them some time to open up and feel comfortable. Don\u2019t pressure them. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If they <\/span>are <\/span><\/i>able to share something real with you, it\u2019s a great sign. It means they feel comfortable with you and trust you enough to open up. It also means they\u2019re not afraid of being vulnerable, even though it\u2019s always a scary thing to do, which is a beautiful thing.  <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. What is the biggest lesson you\u2019ve learned from previous relationships?<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Almost everyone has an ex, so don\u2019t let yourself get jealous here. Plus, there\u2019s so much to learn from why our previous relationships didn\u2019t work out. And when we learn the lessons, we grow.
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The answer to this question will show you if your partner is mature enough not to blame everything on someone else, reflect on his mistakes, and move forward without holding a grudge. It will also give you a clue on what your partner is likely to expect from your current relationship.  <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Do you want to get married and do you want kids someday?<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Before you ask these questions, it\u2019s important to be clear on your own answers.
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Is marriage a must for you, or are you not that bothered about it? Is being a mum something you\u2019ve always dreamed of, or are you adamant you don\u2019t want kids? Once you\u2019re clear on what you want, ask your partner what they want. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If your ideas are starkly different, then that\u2019s something you\u2019ll have to talk about more and see if there\u2019s any future together. Usually, when two people are on different pages with these big questions, it\u2019s not salvageable, because these are massive life values that nobody wants to compromise on (and shouldn\u2019t have to). <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. What are the five things that you are most thankful for right now?<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we think about what we\u2019re grateful for, it puts us in a state of abundance, and that feels really <\/i>good. Is your partner a grateful person, or are they more focused on what they don\u2019t have?
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You\u2019ll be able to tell pretty quickly if they struggle with giving thanks, or if it\u2019s a breeze. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This shows you how your partner generally thinks and views life. Someone who is very grateful is more of an optimist, whereas someone who is stuck in lack is likely to generally be more of a pessimist.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

And pay close attention to the people and\/or things they\u2019re grateful for. Are they simple, humble things, similar to your own gratitude list? Are they more extravagant, material-based things or a mix of both? <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

These are some of the best dating questions to ask a new partner to get to know them on a deeper level. Having real and open conversations from the outset can help build a healthy relationship and make sure you\u2019re both headed in the same direction. <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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