{"id":20389,"date":"2021-01-21T09:29:22","date_gmt":"2021-01-21T17:29:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=20389"},"modified":"2021-05-31T07:35:39","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T14:35:39","slug":"when-to-meet","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/online-dating-tips\/when-to-meet\/","title":{"rendered":"When To Meet A Dating App Match In Real Life"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

To meet or not to meet? That is the question. But, if you\u2019ve been chatting with a cutie on your favorite dating app, the question isn\u2019t whether or not to meet, it\u2019s when to meet. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

According to <\/span>a recent study<\/span><\/a>, 58% of dating app users wait up to a month before meeting someone from an app in real-time. You don\u2019t want to creep your date out by pushing a meetup too early, but you also don\u2019t want to wait too long and risk them hitting it off with someone else. Here\u2019s when to meet a dating app match in real life.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When to Meet: Our Guide<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re an overthinker: The sooner the better<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The more you <\/span>text with someone on an app<\/span><\/a>, the more you may like them. While this is good, it also means that you\u2019ll probably formulate some ideas of how the person on the other end of the phone is going to be IRL. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unfortunately, if they don\u2019t live up to your expectations, things might fall flat and be a big disappointment. Alternately, you may build them up so much in your head that you get nervous and find you can\u2019t truly be yourself on the date. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Of course, this doesn\u2019t mean you should meet up with someone today after matching with them a few hours ago. You still want to ensure that you feel safe and confident about the person you\u2019re about to spend time with. And always make sure to let someone know where you\u2019re going and who you\u2019ll be with before setting out on a first date. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019ve always got your guard up: Take your time <\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have trouble trusting the opposite sex or people in general, you may want to wait a bit longer before deciding when to meet a potential partner. Some people, myself included, find that getting to know someone via text message, phone calls, and Facetime can lead to less pressure. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Of course, this only works for some people. So, if you find that some of your matches aren\u2019t interested in texting back and forth for months before meeting, don\u2019t take it too hard. Age plays a factor in this. Someone in their 20\u2019s is probably more open to meeting sooner vs. someone in their 50\u2019s. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Studies show<\/span><\/a> that it\u2019s natural for things to drop off after the sweet spot of 2-3 weeks of communicating solely online. However, they also show that chatting before meeting can boost intimacy and social orientation. Try and find the balance between. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Everyone has different preferences when it comes to communication, especially with someone they haven\u2019t met yet. So give space for the situation to unfold naturally. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re a straight, cis male: Try for two weeks<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re a man and you\u2019re reading this, here\u2019s a reminder that most women have an inkling of fear each time they set off on a first date. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s nothing personal and has nothing to do with the dead fish in your profile picture, it\u2019s just part of being a woman in this world. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t be surprised if women aren\u2019t open to meeting you after the first few messages. In fact, try to push yourself to wait a little longer before meeting a match.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This time can guarantee that both of you feel a bit more comfortable with each other, and may also help you to make more purposeful choices in your dating life. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you want to wait two weeks before meeting someone, try to make at least tentative plans ahead of time within the first week so your match knows you do actually intend on meeting her. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you tend to get distracted: Shoot for one week <\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dating apps can be distracting and some make it hard to focus on finding one partner when you\u2019re matching with several new people each day. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you find that you match with a lot of people but tend to get bored with text banter and many of your matches don\u2019t end up going anywhere, you may want to try meeting up with matches sooner rather than later. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dating is much more exciting when you get to experience someone\u2019s presence IRL, and it\u2019s understandable that you may not feel that spark via text message. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Try to make a plan to meet with someone before a week passes, if not sooner. This will ensure that they\u2019re still on your mind and the conversation won\u2019t fizzle out before you get a chance to meet. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

At the end of the day, each person you match with is unique and there isn\u2019t one definite rule for when to meet every match. The more you date, the more you\u2019ll learn about what works for you and your dating style.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Just don\u2019t wait too long, because there are plenty of fish in the sea and the one you\u2019ve got your eye on might get hooked! <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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