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Dating and forming strong relationships can be hard for everyone regardless of gender identity and sexual orientation, but there can sometimes be extra considerations when it comes to building happy and healthy LGBTQ relationships. Here are our top tips to keep in mind to help you to avoid common pitfalls. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

LGBTQ Relationships: Real Dating Advice <\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re using dating apps, choose carefully<\/b><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

You already know that when you\u2019re searching for a partner in the LGBTQ community<\/a>, you\u2019re fishing in a smaller pool than most straight cis folks are. The best way that you can boost your chances of success in finding love is by picking the right toolkit! <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re looking for fast results, choosing an app that caters specifically to your orientation, such as one with a good reputation for gay dating<\/a> or one that’s recognized as one of the best lesbian dating sites<\/a>, could be the best bet. But be aware that, depending on where you are located, you might find that some of the dating apps built with the LGBTQ community in mind are under-utilized in your area. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you decide to widen your search a little by using a mainstream dating app, make sure to pick one which offers a highly sophisticated search function, so that you can quickly drill down to see only people that you are interested in having a relationship with. However, beware of \u2018unicorn hunters\u2019, especially if you are a woman! <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

As Jacqueline Gualtieri<\/span> points out<\/span><\/a>, sometimes a woman who is part of a straight couple will create an account to look for someone to join them. \u201cAny lesbian on Tinder now knows the frustration of swiping for hours, hoping to match with someone, and only getting matches that lead to messages asking if they\u2019re interested in a threesome,\u201d she says. Wise words! No one likes feeling slow-played, so, especially if you’re a woman looking to connect with other women<\/a>, be sure to stay on the lookout for anyone who might not be what they seem.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t dismiss \u2018straight culture\u2019 dating concerns as irrelevant<\/b><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Many common dating tips are focused on straight culture, which means they can be totally disregarded by the LGBTQ community, right? Well, actually, not necessarily. It might be tempting to dismiss heteronormative stereotypes out of hand. But be careful; assuming that LGBTQ relationships will not come up against any of the same challenges as straight relationships could be a big mistake.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWe live in the same patriarchal, heteronormative society that dictates how partnerships should work, and just because you\u2019re both women\u2014or both men, for that matter\u2014this problem doesn\u2019t disappear; it simply manifests itself in different specificities or nuances,\u201d says Trish Bendix<\/span> in Harpers Bazaar<\/span><\/a>. This is a great point that drives home the importance of LGBTQ couples actively choosing the terms of their partnership. The fact that there isn\u2019t a ready-made gender roles playbook that governs expectations in LGBTQ relationships is a good thing! That said, it\u2019s still important to communicate your needs and wants to your partner, in order to make sure that your relationship kicks off on the terms that suit you best.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Set boundaries and share preferences early<\/b><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Perhaps you\u2019re the kind of person who can\u2019t wait to go public on social media as soon as your heart is aflutter! Or, maybe you\u2019re the type that likes to take things slow, and only introduce a new partner to friends, family and colleagues once you\u2019re certain it\u2019s going somewhere. To avoid unnecessary friction, it\u2019s important to discuss your preferences with your partner. How do they feel about PDAs? Is being \u2018social media official\u2019 as soon as you become an item a big deal for them, or do they prefer to keep their private life a little more, well, private?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Plus, make sure to ask yourself the questions that are pertinent when it comes to choosing your perfect match. Would you ideally want that person to be \u2018out\u2019 to everyone in their lives? Would it be a dealbreaker if they weren\u2019t? Different preferences when it comes to how to present as a couple and to whom might seem small and insignificant, but they can add up to bigger problems down the road. Communicate clearly, early and often to make sure that you are on the same page as your partner, and that things stay that way!<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Above all else, follow your heart (but let your head have a say, too!)<\/b><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

However you identify, whoever you fall for, <\/span>good relationships are good relationships<\/span><\/a>. If someone makes you happy, then dive in! Just remember to check in with yourself \u2013 and your partner \u2013 on a regular basis to check that your needs are being met.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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