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Love bombing signs aren\u2019t always that easy to spot. It\u2019s a behavior that\u2019s talked about more often recently, whether in a post about someone\u2019s experience of being love bombed in their relationship or a gossip columnist live-tweeting about one of the candidates on The Bachelor<\/em>.

Despite this, spotting the signs of this behavior isn\u2019t always easy. To help you out, we\u2019ve put together an extensive guide on what love bombing means, the most common love bombing signs to look out for, and tips on how to tackle them! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What Is Love Bombing?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

So, what does love bombing mean? Well, love bombing commonly involves one side of a relationship showering \u2014 or \u201cbombing\u201d \u2014 the other with extreme or over-the-top displays of affection and attention. Dr. Spirit, a licensed therapist and relationship expert<\/a>, describes love bombing as \u201ca form of emotional manipulation used to gain power over a person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can be hard to recognize signs of love bombing at first. Often, this can be because they\u2019re similar to what most of us want in a relationship: love; affection; attention; and even gifts from time to time. Some people fall into relationships that are fast, intense, and passionate at the beginning. That doesn\u2019t necessarily mean they\u2019re being love-bombed, so it\u2019s important to know which signs to look out for. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

13 Love Bombing Signs to Look Out For<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

So, what does love bombing look like? There are a few things that are typically signs of love bombing when they happen in the very early stages of a relationship. We\u2019ve outlined 13 of the most common love bombing signs below.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. They say \u201cI love you\u201d very early in the relationship<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Saying \u201cI love you\u201d<\/a> for the first time can be genuinely special. But, more often than not, it takes time to get to this stage. If someone you\u2019re dating drops the L word within a few days or even weeks, it could be a sign that you\u2019re being love bombed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. They introduce you to their parents or family members too soon <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Love bombers sometimes want to introduce their partner to important people in their life, very early on in the relationship. Often, they do this to make you feel like the relationship is getting very serious, very quickly. They may also want to meet the important people in your life to try to get their approval with the same love bombing-like tactics. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. They try to move in with you<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Keep in mind that most of these love bombing signs apply to the early stages of a relationship. If your partner wants to talk about moving in together after you\u2019ve been together for a year, that\u2019s pretty normal. After a couple of weeks, however? It\u2019s a definite red flag.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. They want to define the relationship ASAP<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Oftentimes, post-pandemic dating<\/a> can be slightly commitment-phobic, and most of us could probably benefit from defining our relationships a bit sooner rather than letting them remain undefined for years on end. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

That being said, if the person you\u2019ve just started dating wants to commit ASAP, whether that means calling you his girlfriend or even proposing, it could very well be a sign of love bombing. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. They post the relationship all over social media<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Most of us love when our significant other shows us off on social media. But if someone is excessively posting romantic photos of you two all over their socials, it might be an indication of love bombing. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is especially true if they post lovey-dovey captions like \u201cmy world\u201d or \u201cmy soul mate\u201d within just weeks of meeting you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. They call you their soulmate or twin flame<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

We\u2019ve been taught to search for our soulmate since we were in diapers watching Disney movies, so it\u2019s no surprise that narcissists may call you their soulmate or twin flame<\/a> in an attempt to make you feel like your connection is stronger than it really is. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. They give you over-the-top compliments<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

If your partner constantly says things that make you feel confident, beautiful, and smart, that\u2019s great. We all love reassuring words of affirmation<\/a>. But, if they give you dramatic compliments so much that you feel like you\u2019re living in an episode of Bridgerton<\/em>, that might be a cause for concern. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s normal for your partner to express their feelings. However, if their compliments are something like \u201cyou are my world and I know that you\u2019re destined to be my wife,\u201d in the first few months, that\u2019s probably a bad sign. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. They shower you with gifts<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s cute when your date buys you a nice bottle of wine or their favorite vegan cupcakes, especially if your love language is gifts<\/a>. That being said, it\u2019s creepy when your date shows up with a designer bag or two tickets to a luxurious getaway when you\u2019ve only met once or twice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. They ask you to do things you don’t feel comfortable doing<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

For an IRL love bombing example, look no further than Netflix\u2019s The Tinder Swindler<\/em>. The swindler, AKA Simon Leviev, showered his girlfriends with luxury gifts, took them on fancy vacations (sometimes as early as the first date), and texted them constantly no matter where he was traveling (over-the-top affection). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is an extreme example, and a manipulator\u2019s ask isn\u2019t always as outlandish as thousands of dollars. It might be as simple as him asking you to stop going to your weekly pilates class because he wants to spend more time with you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. They want to spend every waking hour with you<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

If you feel like you haven\u2019t had any me-time since you got into the relationship, it\u2019s probably not very healthy. While it\u2019s natural to want to spend lots of time with someone in the honeymoon phase<\/a>, it\u2019s concerning if they want you to forego other friends, work, or personal obligations just to be with them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

11. They seem too good to be true<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Everyone, no matter how worthy of love, has flaws. If your partner is super-agreeable and seems to have all the same likes and dislikes as you, it\u2019s probably an act they\u2019re putting on to make you think that your soulmates. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Keep a close eye on this, because you\u2019ll probably start noticing inconsistencies in their behavior as they forget to keep up the act. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

12. They make you feel guilty for putting yourself first<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

If your partner makes you feel guilty for setting and sticking to your boundaries, that\u2019s a bad sign. This can range across a multitude of things. Perhaps they don\u2019t like you hanging out with your friends instead of them? Or did they disagree with you not giving them your phone password?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whatever it might be, a love bomber will try to make you feel guilty for sticking up for yourself and your needs. They might say things like, \u201cWow, I guess I\u2019ll just sit here all alone until you get back,\u201d or \u201cI thought we had no secrets? I would give you my phone password if you wanted it.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A good relationship<\/a> doesn\u2019t involve making your partner feel guilty for putting themselves first. It\u2019s probably a sign of love bombing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

13. They\u2019re often short-tempered <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

This one relates to the last point. If you find that the person you\u2019re dating is not only making you feel guilty but is also getting angry when you don\u2019t give them the attention they feel they deserve, this can be a pretty surefire love bombing sign.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Meaningful connections are formed on trust and respect. Love bombers can\u2019t handle this and often show their frustration when their partner gives time to someone other than them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How to Deal With Love Bombing (And How to Move On)<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re worried that you\u2019re being love bombed, don\u2019t panic. Awareness is the first (and best) step to take. Of course, as we mentioned above, love bombing isn\u2019t a-one size-fits-all prescription, so you\u2019ll have to trust your gut and your instincts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re in the early stages of the relationship and you\u2019re not sure they realize how their over-the-top actions are coming across, it\u2019s worth trying to have a conversation about it. Try drawing a boundary and seeing how they react. For example, trying approaches such as: <\/p>\n\n\n\n