{"id":30774,"date":"2024-11-26T08:28:33","date_gmt":"2024-11-26T16:28:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/?p=30774"},"modified":"2024-11-26T08:29:12","modified_gmt":"2024-11-26T16:29:12","slug":"perfect-match-unexpected-but-okay","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/perfect-match-unexpected-but-okay\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Your Perfect Match May Not Be What You Expected (And Why That\u2019s Okay)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Whether you\u2019ve been searching for your soulmate your entire life or you\u2019ve recently ended what was once a promising relationship and you\u2019re looking for a fresh start, you want your match to be perfect. Or at least as perfect as possible.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s why our platform is based on mutual compatibility. We believe that when members have behavioral traits that complement one another, the chance of success is much higher. Oftentimes, we become so focused on perceived perception that we lose track of what really matters. We hope that this article will make a case for opening yourself up to opportunity.<\/p>\n<h2>Unlocking the Path to Finding &#8220;The One&#8221;<\/h2>\n<p>If you believe that you are destined to find and fall in love with your one true person, it\u2019s important that you lend fate as much of a hand as you can.<\/p>\n<p>That means being able to identify that person when you meet them, being ready for a relationship, and knowing how to make it work with your perfect match, even when things get a little tough. If you are of the belief that your perfect match is out there, this advice will still benefit you. And if you are searching for \u201ca type\u201d that could become the right match for you, this Zoosk dating advice will help.<\/p>\n<h3>Challenging Traditional Beliefs About Perfect Matches<\/h3>\n<p>The belief in soulmates is deeply rooted in our traditions, religion, and culture. In Plato\u2019s \u201cSymposium,\u201d Aristophanes describes people as two creatures that are split in half by Zeus. As a result, everyone spends their life looking for the other half.<\/p>\n<p>The idea of soulmates was heavily popularized during the Romanticism movement of the 18th and 19th centuries. Even modern art, music, and literature allude to soulmates. There is absolutely nothing wrong with searching for your soulmate, but there are ideas around the concept that may be counterproductive.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li data-gc-list-depth=\"1\" data-gc-list-style=\"bullet\">Love at First Site \u2013 You may have been conditioned to believe that you will immediately know your perfect match the minute you set eyes on them. While this is a truly romantic idea, it\u2019s impossible to test. And if love at first site doesn\u2019t truly exist, you may miss meeting someone great \u2014 maybe you\u2019re true soulmate \u2014 because you didn\u2019t have an immediate reaction.<\/li>\n<li data-gc-list-depth=\"1\" data-gc-list-style=\"bullet\">Compatibility Means Perfect Harmony \u2013 Every relationship has its trials. If there are exceptions to this, we haven\u2019t found them. You may have a disagreement with your perfect match, but that doesn\u2019t mean that they\u2019re wrong for you.<\/li>\n<li data-gc-list-depth=\"1\" data-gc-list-style=\"bullet\">Destiny Will Guide You to Your Soulmate \u2013 Your soulmate might live in your town or work in the same building as you, but they may not be. You may have to search for someone to love. Zoosk specializes in easing the work of searching for someone to fall in love with. Putting yourself out there makes it easier for you to connect with your one true love.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3>How Expectations Shape Your Dating Experience<\/h3>\n<p>Do you have an idea about what your perfect match\u2019s qualities are? Have you prioritized certain characteristics over others? Zoosk is a platform that helps members determine their own expectations. One of the reasons that many relationships fail is that one or both of the partners are unclear about what they want before they become involved. That doesn\u2019t mean they\u2019re not trying to define their expectations. It could be that they lack guidance, or they\u2019re just not sure of their priorities.<\/p>\n<p>When you sign up for Zoosk, the personality quiz takes most people 10 to 15 minutes, but it provides valuable insights into what you might be looking for. If you carefully consider your answers, you will have a much better chance of finding a perfect match who is truly aligned with you. It might also teach you a few things about yourself.<\/p>\n<h2>Unexpected Love Stories: Couples Who Found Love Unexpectedly<\/h2>\n<p>Our members are unique individuals \u2014 each with their own qualities, priorities, tastes, goals, and wants. Our algorithm matches members by compatibility. And it works. Here are some testimonials by couples who met on Zoosk:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li data-gc-list-depth=\"1\" data-gc-list-style=\"bullet\"><a href=\"https:\/\/about.zoosk.com\/en\/blog\/success-stories\/congratulations-kristy-denise-wisconsin\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" data-gc-link=\"https:\/\/about.zoosk.com\/en\/blog\/success-stories\/congratulations-kristy-denise-wisconsin\/\">The Story of Kristy and Denise<\/a> &#8211; \u201cDenise smiled at me first but I was already eyeing her! I tried to play it cool and waited a couple seconds and smiled back. We started chatting on the site and almost immediately on the phone. We met at a restaurant halfway between our homes and that was it!! We are a perfect match because we both enjoy life, have the same values and love our time having fun together!\u201d<\/li>\n<li data-gc-list-depth=\"1\" data-gc-list-style=\"bullet\"><a href=\"http:\/\/about.zoosk.com\/en\/blog\/success-stories\/lucky-las-vegas\/\" data-gc-link=\"http:\/\/about.zoosk.com\/en\/blog\/success-stories\/lucky-las-vegas\/\">The Story of Donovan and Lynessa<\/a> \u2013 \u201cI read his profile and thought wow. Now, I\u2019m definitely looking forward to the future because we have our beautiful 15-month old daughter and we have our little boy coming in three months&#8230; You couldn\u2019t really ask for more and I\u2019m very excited to grow old together.\u201d<\/li>\n<li data-gc-list-depth=\"1\" data-gc-list-style=\"bullet\"><a href=\"http:\/\/about.zoosk.com\/en\/blog\/success-stories\/zoosk-success-story-tessa-jake-and-zooskie-makes-three\/\" data-gc-link=\"http:\/\/about.zoosk.com\/en\/blog\/success-stories\/zoosk-success-story-tessa-jake-and-zooskie-makes-three\/\">The Story of Jake and Tessa<\/a> \u2013 \u201cMe and my boyfriend met on Zoosk in January 2012. In May 2013 we bought our first house together. Ever since I was a little girl I\u2019ve wanted a dog so we decided it was time to welcome our first puppy into the home. Her name is Zooskie! Thank you for making me the happiest girl in the world.\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>And there are many, many more.<\/p>\n<h2>Why Personality Matters More Than Preferences<\/h2>\n<p>When you think about the qualities your perfect match has, how many of them are dealbreakers for you, and how many of them would be nice to have? For example, you might require that the person you\u2019re with is of the same faith, but you would also like them to be tall. Height isn\u2019t a dealbreaker for you, but religion is. We don\u2019t deny the importance of physical attraction \u2014 you need to be attracted to the person you\u2019re with \u2014 but compatibility is essential.<\/p>\n<h2>How Zoosk\u2019s Matchmaking Process Helps Find Unexpected Matches<\/h2>\n<p>One of the key features of Zoosk that separates us from other platforms is that we offer our members a compatibility quiz. The algorithm uses the answers to match members. Not only does the algorithm learn what you like, but it also finds members who meet your expectations who will also like what you\u2019re offering.<\/p>\n<p>There are also numerous filters, so if the members you\u2019re matching with are not what you\u2019re looking for, you can change your filters to refine your search.<\/p>\n<h3>How Behavioral Matchmaking Connects You with Compatible Partners<\/h3>\n<p>You might be wondering how the Zoosk algorithm works. While the technology behind it is complex, the explanation isn\u2019t.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li data-gc-list-depth=\"1\" data-gc-list-style=\"bullet\">You\u2019ll take a personality quiz.<\/li>\n<li data-gc-list-depth=\"1\" data-gc-list-style=\"bullet\">The algorithm determines what you\u2019re looking for and what your personality traits are.<\/li>\n<li data-gc-list-depth=\"1\" data-gc-list-style=\"bullet\">It removes any members that don\u2019t meet your criteria. For example, if your age range is 30 to 40, it will remove any options outside that range.<\/li>\n<li data-gc-list-depth=\"1\" data-gc-list-style=\"bullet\">From the remaining candidates, it determines which ones are compatible with your personality.<\/li>\n<li data-gc-list-depth=\"1\" data-gc-list-style=\"bullet\">It then presents you with a curated list of highly compatible candidates.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3>Exploring New Types of Matches on Zoosk<\/h3>\n<p>The potential matches you receive may not be what you initially expected. You may have differences, and their profile may say things that you wouldn\u2019t expect. The objective is not to find a carbon copy of yourself. It\u2019s to find a jigsaw puzzle piece that fits.<\/p>\n<p>We encourage you to connect with several people. Talk to them using our private messaging system. As you talk to more matches, you\u2019ll have an even better idea of what you\u2019re looking for.<\/p>\n<h2>Embrace Flexibility in Finding Love<\/h2>\n<p>Finding someone to love can be extremely challenging, but in the end, it\u2019s all worth it. While you\u2019re searching for that perfect someone, keep an open mind about the opportunities you have. And try the Zoosk dating platform. We have an excellent track record of helping people find the love of their lives.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Whether you\u2019ve been searching for your soulmate your entire life or you\u2019ve recently ended what was once a promising relationship and you\u2019re looking for a fresh start, you want your match to be perfect. Or at least as perfect as possible. That\u2019s why our platform is based on mutual compatibility. 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