{"id":4016,"date":"2014-03-18T13:10:46","date_gmt":"2014-03-18T20:10:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/about.zoosk.com\/en\/?p=4016"},"modified":"2021-06-01T00:26:59","modified_gmt":"2021-06-01T07:26:59","slug":"5-tips-better-first-dates-guaranteed","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/first-date-tips\/5-tips-better-first-dates-guaranteed\/","title":{"rendered":"The 5 Most Obvious First Date Tips"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

1. Be on Time<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Make every effort to be where you said you\u2019d be. You want your date to feel comfortable and relaxed\u2014not anxious or upset for waiting alone at a restaurant, party, or crowded bar. If you are running late, send your date a quick text message that includes 1., your ETA (that\u2019s e<\/b>stimated t<\/b>ime of a<\/b>rrival) and, 2., some positive affirmation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Examples:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMy boss dropped by my desk for an impromptu meeting, so I\u2019ll be about 10 minutes late. Terrible timing on her part, because I\u2019m excited to meet you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThe parking situation is a little crazy, but I\u2019ll be parked and enjoying dinner with you in the next 10 minutes.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Ask Questions<\/strong>
\nYou might think this one is just too<\/i> obvious, but it is the single most important component of a successful first date. Everyone loves talking about themselves; however, the goal of the first date is to learn more about someone else. Talk about your interests and your opinions, but ask your date for his or her perspective.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Examples:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThe new sushi place on Main Street has great atmosphere, but I think their sushi is just okay. How does sushi rank on your food hierarchy?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI used my vacation time in Europe, but next time I\u2019d like to go to the Caribbean. Are you more into beaches or skiing?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Keep It Light<\/strong>
\nThe first date is your opportunity to figure out if chemistry exists\u2014that\u2019s all. So, have some fun with it. Talk about things that make you laugh or interest you. Hopefully, you and your date share some common interests or, at the very least, want to learn more about each others hobbies. The first date is NOT the time to ask your date about future children, past relationships, or personal issues. It\u2019s also not a good idea to discuss your vulnerabilities. In other words, your date should not know about your therapist or your brother\u2019s stint in rehab. If the relationship progresses, there will be time for you to discuss the hard stuff, but the first date is not it. Relate, don\u2019t unload<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Read the Cues<\/strong>
\nYour date\u2019s body language and facial expressions will help guide you\u2014make sure you pay attention. If your \u201chilarious\u201d joke doesn\u2019t make your date laugh, you might want to rethink your content. Meanwhile, if your date pulls his or her chair in closer to yours or wipes some food off your cheek\u2014congratulations\u2014you are doing well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Appreciate Your Date<\/strong>
\nAt the end of your date, say thank you. Regardless of who initiated the date, you should thank your date for spending his or her personal time with you. Even if you didn\u2019t make a love connection, your manners and consideration will end the night on a positive note.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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