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Some men like to say that women are complicated. And they\u2019re right! Women are complicated. But then, men are complicated too. <\/span>Men and women are vastly different, but we\u2019re all governed by basic social rules and norms. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This article gives you guys out there a few quick tips on how to understand how women are different and master the social norms that make easy conversation possible. We’ve used data from real online daters to come up a with a few ways you can make sure that you’re online communications are strong.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Keep these things in mind and you\u2019ll learn how to talk to women online:<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

R-E-S-P-E-C-T
\n<\/b>So this might seem obvious, but you\u2019d be surprised how many people become disrespectful while communicating online. As a man, you should always treat women with respect. That means, no rudeness, no insults, no inappropriately sexual comments. Communicating online can be hard. Some of the subtle nuances of your jokes or comments may be lost. So be careful, re-read what you\u2019ve written, and get a feel for the woman and the conversation before getting more aggressive. You may think you\u2019re being playful and she may think you\u2019re a complete jerk. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Some Compliments are Better Than Others
\n<\/b>Making compliments on an intellectual or emotional level, not strictly a physical level, can get you far online. A lot of guys lead with, \u201cYou\u2019re beautiful,\u201d or \u201cYou look amazing.\u201d And ya, every girl likes to be complimented on her appearance, but chances are she\u2019s heard this a lot and you\u2019ll just look like every other guy messaging her. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Try mixing it up, and compliment her on something else. A woman is generally more flattered by compliments about her intelligence, her kindness, or the worth of her personality than she is by comments about her physical appearance.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you do compliment her looks, make it unique. <\/span>Data from real online daters<\/span><\/a> showed that women responded to messages that called out specific things about their looks\u2014eyes, hair, or glasses\u2014instead of words like beautiful. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Keep Talking – There\u2019s No Playing Hard to Get Online
\n<\/b>Sometimes the biggest struggle with talking to a woman, especially when you\u2019re nervous, is to avoid running out of things to talk about. If the conversation stalls it can be a killer. So have a few go-to questions you like to ask people or a few go-to topics you like to bring up. Even if they\u2019re a bit generic or boring, it\u2019s good to have something ready. That way, if there\u2019s a pause in the conversation you\u2019ll be ready. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re waiting to message her back, keep in mind that a lot of women like it when guys play hard to get. It\u2019s mysterious, it keeps them guessing, it can drive them crazy, but it\u2019s also part of the fun. Playing hard-to-get is all well in good when you\u2019re offline, but online? Well, it just doesn\u2019t work. According to data Zoosk collected from over 3 million conversations<\/a>, if someone doesn\u2019t reply within 24 hours, there\u2019s a 94% chance you\u2019ll never talk again. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ask Questions
\n<\/b>All people like it when someone is interested in them and wants to learn more. If you feel at a loss of things to say around a woman, ask about her taste in music, movies, or books. Find out what she enjoys most, what her job is, or even what she wishes her job is. Even asking what the last movie she saw, even if she hated it, can lead to a good conversation and help you get to know her. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t Try Too Hard
\n<\/b>The majority of women don\u2019t appreciate it when men come across as arrogant, or as if they\u2019re <\/span>trying too hard to impress<\/span>. The kind of bantering that happens between guys isn\u2019t the same as the kind of communication that occurs between a man and a woman. So take it easy, don\u2019t tell her about all the amazing things you do, what car you drive, or how you just got a new phone. If she\u2019s interested, those are things she\u2019ll notice and appreciate on her own. If you want to brag a little, and highlight what makes you a great catch, tell a story about something cool you did that you think she\u2019d enjoy too. That way it\u2019s not just about you.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Being too aggressive right off the bat can backfire. Data shows<\/a> that first messages from men that mention dinner, drinks, or lunch, get 35% less responses. Don\u2019t ask someone out in your very first message.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Be Honest About Your Past and Your Present
\n<\/b>Women really respect a guy who\u2019s honest and upfront right away. In a different exploration, Zoosk looked at the profiles of 3,956 subscribers and found that men who had profiles that mentioned divorce, separate,<\/em> or my ex<\/em> got 52% more messages. Similarly, men who mentioned son, daughter, teenager, children,<\/em> or single dad<\/em> saw an increase of 7%.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Chances are, you\u2019re better at talking to women than you think. You just need a little practice. And that\u2019s one of the best things about online dating\u2014there are a lot of opportunities to get to know a lot of people. So have fun, flirt, ask questions, and you\u2019ll have a date in no time. <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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