{"id":5381,"date":"2014-07-01T09:58:05","date_gmt":"2014-07-01T16:58:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/about.zoosk.com\/en\/?p=5381"},"modified":"2021-06-01T00:24:38","modified_gmt":"2021-06-01T07:24:38","slug":"3-ways-to-make-him-smitten-on-the-first-date","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-statistics-and-research\/3-ways-to-make-him-smitten-on-the-first-date\/","title":{"rendered":"3 Ways To Make Him Smitten on the First Date"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Looking forward to meeting your favorite match for dinner and drinks? Dazzle him with your confidence and self awareness. Although you have everything you need to make the best impression, the authors of Smitten: The Way of the Brilliant Flirt<\/em>, have 3 Secrets that will help you make the most memorable first date imaginable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1) Be Decisive and Upstanding<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whenever we ask our male cohorts what they think the sexiest attribute in a woman is, they always say the same thing\u2014confidence. Let your confidence show by conveying what you want. Don\u2019t expect the man to make all the date decisions, saying \u201cI don\u2019t know\u201d when you really do. Don’t try squeezing yourself into an agreeable ball of mush. Agreeable balls of mush don\u2019t make solid first impressions. Stand out by carrying yourself with confidence\u2014this means making clear decisions and behaving with integrity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you want to make him truly smitten with you, show your confidence by suggesting a great sushi spot, looking him in the eye as he picks up the check, assertively going in for a smooch, or sending a sweet thank-you text in the morning. Remember, do this regardless of whether your date responds in kind<\/em>. Always uphold your social standards of grace and integrity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2) Be Completely Present with Him<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Get to know the real live three-dimensional man in front of you. Don’t let yourself obsess about whether or not he likes you. Instead, focus on him. If you want to leave a lasting impression, earnestly connect with your date. When you look at him, don\u2019t just superficially evaluate him for his breeder-potential, really see <\/em>him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When beginning to converse, stay away from the usual topics. Instead, ask a quirky question to inspire a personal response. When he answers, really listen to the nuances of the response instead of just giggling and agreeing. Don\u2019t just spend the evening evaluating how he measures up to your needs, beliefs, hopes, and wishes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3) Express your Enthusiasm<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Step it up a notch by not just showing your enthusiasm for the environment, but also your excitement for him<\/em>. So many women tell us they are fearful of doing this because they want to seem \u201ccool\u201d and \u201cunaffected\u201d. Boring. To be able to say \u201cI\u2019m having so much fun on this date, I\u2019m so glad we met\u201d or \u201cYou\u2019re so uniquely intelligent – it\u2019s really attractive,\u201d takes courage and shows real confidence. You\u2019re not waiting to be \u201cliked\u201d first. You don\u2019t need his approval to reveal how you feel. Having this level of confidence is damn sexy. And very rare.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To make him smitten, you must bring yourself fully: your integrity, your clarity, your curiosity, your enthusiasm, and your joy. Don\u2019t wait to see what he seems to like or dislike and then adjust. Show your true self. If he\u2019s not a fan, forget him; he\u2019s not your guy. Don\u2019t force it. Instead, continue living your awesome life, perusing profiles and setting up the next date with the guy who is.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Looking for more ways to make him smitten? Find Smitten book authors, Ariel Kiley and Simone Kornfeld, here<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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