Many of us have friends who are negative, who maybe even identify themselves as pessimists or take pride in the fact that they look at the world and are honest about the fact that it\u2019s not always beautiful. We love these friends, their pessimism is part of their charm and a big part of who they are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This article is not for them.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n Those people <\/span>should<\/span><\/i> be negative on their online dating profile, because the person they meet will need to appreciate their pessimism as much as their friends do. For the rest of us, those of us who don\u2019t identify ourselves that way, it\u2019s a good idea to double-check our online dating profiles for negativity. Because you\u2019d be surprised how often something you write can come across as negative, and how much it can hurt your ability to attract the type person you\u2019re looking for. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n Ready to do a negativity check? Here are two quick things to look out for:<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n Focus on what you want, not on what you <\/b>don\u2019t <\/i><\/b>want Think about it: If you put \u201cNo drama please!\u201d in your profile doesn\u2019t it sound, well, a little dramatic? If you were looking for a relationship with no drama, would that be the person you\u2019d message? Probably not. But you might message someone that said, \u201cI\u2019m a positive, laid-back person, looking for someone who\u2019s the same.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n Luckily, this kind of negativity is easy to spot and easy to fix. Just take a look at your profile and identify any places you talk about the things you don\u2019t want or don\u2019t like in another person. Then reword it to focus on what you do want instead.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n Dating can be hard, but don\u2019t talk about it in your profile Steer away from mentioning that you don\u2019t like online dating, that you haven\u2019t had any luck before, or that you\u2019re sick of playing games. Others may feel the same way but it\u2019s not the best first impression. Instead, talk about the things you\u2019re looking forward to and what you hope to get out of the experience. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n Dating and life isn\u2019t all sunny perfect days and fluffy white clouds. It\u2019s OK to feel discouraged sometimes or feel frustrated when things don\u2019t work out. There\u2019s a time when opening up about your past relationships with someone is a way to get closer and learn about each other. The first impression you make in your profile isn\u2019t that time. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n So do a quick check, make sure you\u2019re representing yourself in a positive light, and you just may be surprised by how a positive profile can help you meet a positive person. <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Two things every online dater should look out for. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":9,"featured_media":12083,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[890],"tags":[800],"class_list":["post-633","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-online-dating-profile-tips","tag-onlineprofile"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\n<\/b>Sometimes when you\u2019re asked to describe what it is you\u2019re looking for in another person, the first thing that comes to mind is what you\u2019re not looking for. Especially if you\u2019ve just gotten out of a relationship that didn\u2019t work out. But by saying what you don\u2019t want, you may be turning away people who you\u2019d really be interested in.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/b>We know. Online dating, and all dating, can be rough and it gets frustrating. It\u2019s tempting to put something about it in your profile, but focusing on how hard it\u2019s been can give the wrong impression.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n