{"id":7282,"date":"2015-01-14T16:39:38","date_gmt":"2015-01-15T00:39:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/about.zoosk.com\/en\/?p=7282"},"modified":"2024-06-28T03:26:21","modified_gmt":"2024-06-28T10:26:21","slug":"online-dating-message-help-me-write-my-first-message","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/dating-advice-men\/online-dating-message-help-me-write-my-first-message\/","title":{"rendered":"Online Dating Message: Help Me Write My First Message!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><em>Dear Joan Actually,<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>I\u2019ve been online dating for a few weeks, and I\u2019ve sent out tons of messages to girls I\u2019m interested in, but I haven\u2019t been getting any responses back. I don\u2019t know if it&#8217;s me or just the way online dating works. Is this normal?&nbsp;What do I say?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>-Fresno, CA<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When it comes to an online dating message,&nbsp;you&#8217;re not going to get a response <em>every<\/em> time no matter what you do, so don&#8217;t take it personally. Remember, making a move is half the battle<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u2014<\/span>and you&#8217;re doing that<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u2014<\/span>so now it&#8217;s time to fine tune your methodology to increase the likelihood of getting&nbsp;not only a response, but an actual date.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>To write better messages, consider these three things:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading has-medium-font-size\"><strong>1. A one size fits all approach is NOT going to work.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Women know when you\u2019re sending out the same canned message, and they don\u2019t want that. You&#8217;re going to have to pick out a few details from her profile and craft a tailored message around the information that makes her unique.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading has-medium-font-size\"><strong>2.&nbsp;Keep it brief and include a question.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Shoot for a 3-5 sentence message that includes a question about something she wrote. So, she likes live music. Ask about her favorite venue.&nbsp;You should also share&nbsp;details about yourself to establish some common ground and get a conversation going.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading has-medium-font-size\"><strong>&nbsp;3.&nbsp;Do NOT come on too strong.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Giving her generic compliments or alluding to sexy stuff&nbsp;is going to get you deleted. Not sure if you&#8217;re going to far? 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