{"id":7345,"date":"2015-02-05T09:27:03","date_gmt":"2015-02-05T17:27:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/about.zoosk.com\/en\/?p=7345"},"modified":"2021-06-01T00:01:38","modified_gmt":"2021-06-01T07:01:38","slug":"research-reveals-opposites-dont-attract","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-statistics-and-research\/science-love\/research-reveals-opposites-dont-attract\/","title":{"rendered":"Research Reveals Opposites Don\u2019t Attract"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>According to a <a href=\"http:\/\/m.theatlantic.com\/magazine\/archive\/2015\/01\/youre-just-like-me\/383502\/\">bunch of studies<\/a> rounded up by the Atlantic the old dating adage that opposites attract isn\u2019t actually true. A study of 291 couples found that there were more similarities than differences in almost all areas of their lives, including religion, politics, and values.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Scientists have a word for this \u2014 \u201cpositive assortative mating\u201d \u2014 and it\u2019s found in animals, too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Humans are no different; we tend to pair up with partners on the same level of attractiveness, because&nbsp;we\u2019re attracted to ourselves. &nbsp;One study showed that we go after partners with similar facial features. So, if you have a prominent nose, chances are that you&#8217;ll go for the guy with a prominent nose. We like the features that we find on ourselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But personality wins out over prettiness, right? Wrong. When it comes the personality factor, like also attracts like. If you\u2019re a happy-go-lucky person, you\u2019ll tend to seek the same in a potential partner. On the flip side, if you\u2019re a bit of Debbie Downer, you\u2019ll be more into someone who shares your view of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And, yes, money does matter when it comes to finding your significant other. Those on similar pay grades tend to match up. However, your level of schooling actually matters more because it implies cultural commonalities. For instance, Ivy Leaguers will likely share a similar work ethic, income level as well as values, opposed to those who didn\u2019t attend college.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sorry kids, opposites don&#8217;t attract. So, how does this help when it comes to finding your match online? First of all, don\u2019t take &nbsp;rejection personally. These studies reinforce the idea that square pegs don\u2019t actually fit into round holes. If you\u2019re struggling to match with a woman who\u2019s inherently different than you, there\u2019s a reason for that. Also, if you were thinking of pulling a George Constanza and doing the complete opposite of what you\u2019ve ever done in dating \u2014 meaning going for the guy who doesn\u2019t have anything in common with you \u2014 you might want to hold off. &nbsp;Wait for the guy who shares your pointy chin, or pronounced nose, instead.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>As it turns out like attracts like. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":61,"featured_media":12212,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[902],"tags":[777,760,484,589],"class_list":["post-7345","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-science-love","tag-meeting","tag-men","tag-science","tag-women"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v26.0 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ 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