Hey Joan,<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Lots of single ladies here. How do I start the convo?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
-#ShyGuy<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Figuring out how to talk to a woman you don’t know\u2014especially a woman that you’re attracted to\u2014will trigger lots of uncomfortable feelings if you let yourself overthink it. Instead of anticipating all the ways she could respond, remember that all you’re trying to do is say hello.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Getting the courage to approach her is the hard part, but once you’re there, it gets easier. Forget about the perfect opener or delivering a clever line. Nothing you say will ever be more important than that fact that you made a move.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When you do approach her, the best way to break the tension is to put a time limit on your interaction. If you take a seat and give her the feeling that you\u2019re going to be there all night, you’ll be forcing the interaction. You’ll both feel pressured to prolong the conversation, which will get in the way of establishing good feelings. All you need is enough time to introduce yourself, ask a couple questions to figure out if you like her, and get her number–or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Remember that people in social situations like to be social, so you don\u2019t have to ask, \u201cHey is it okay if I talk to you?\u201d ALWAYS assume that she’s interested in hearing from you. If you ask her if it’s okay, you’re inadvertently demonstrating that you need extra validation right off the bat. Needy guys\u2014like needy girls\u2014are turn offs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You shouldn’t use the approach to get to know her; use the approach to figure out if you want to get to know her on a date<\/em>. Once you get the number or decide you don\u2019t want it, it\u2019s time to scoot.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Still confused about how to approach women? Watch and learn.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n