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Among other adjustments that come with turning 30, women looking for love must realign their expectations when it relates to finding love. While they can\u2019t afford to be as footloose-and-fancy-free as they may have been in their 20s, looking for a deeper commitment in their 30s means that the reward is greater. What it requires is a more realistic evaluation of where they\u2019re at and the types of men who would be good matches, and a greater strategy in finding that perfect partner. We asked relationship experts for their insights on how meeting men changes once you move from your 20s to your 30s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From having the first choice to not being someone else\u2019s first choice.<\/strong> In your 20s, \u201cyou felt like the world was your oyster,\u201d says dating expert and matchmaker Stef Safran<\/a>. You had your pick of the litter, so to speak\u2014you could choose any sort of guy. And you often went for the \u201cbad boy,\u201d thinking you could change him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

By the time you hit your 30s, however, you realize that you\u2019re not the \u201cprime pick\u201d in men\u2019s eyes anymore. However, that doesn\u2019t have to be the end of the world! Re-evaluating yourself may actually inspire you to be more open-minded and in turn seek out open-minded people. The wisdom of experience also keeps you from being fooled by men who are just players and not looking for a real commitment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From opportunity coming to you to searching it out yourself.<\/strong> \u201cMeeting men in your 30s can be tough,\u201d says David Bennett<\/a>, author of Eleven Dating Mistakes Guys Make (and How to Correct Them)<\/a><\/em>. \u201cMany men are married and in relationships. Many women find that guys in their 30s are passing up 30-something women for women in their 20s. To meet guys in their 30s, women should understand that the days of sitting in a club while guys line up to compete for their attention are likely over.\u201d The upside of that realization, however, is that it frees women to take more control of their dating lives. To wit:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From unplanned to strategic.<\/strong> \u201cWomen in their 20s should be going to happy hours, bar parties, joining sports teams,\u201d advises Safran. In short\u2014\u201cdoing anything \u2018fun\u2019 that they meet new people, including women.” (It always pays to meet a likeminded woman who has a great single male friend.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When it comes to their 30s, however, women can\u2019t afford to be so laissez-faire<\/em> in looking for love. \u201cWomen in their 30s should be more strategic,\u201d Safran says. \u201cJoin sports teams that are known to have singles in the 30-something age group; don’t just join any<\/em> team. Go to networking events and make constant efforts to get new female friends\u2014so that you can get new groups of people to meet potential dates through.\u201d Women in this age group are also more likely to use online dating, as they may not be getting as many blind date setups.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From searching out the alpha male to \u201cboring\u201d guys.<\/strong> Bennett suggests that women be more open to relationships with a wider variety of men: \u201cGuys that may have seemed \u2018boring\u2019 in their 20s are likely stable and successful in their 30s,\u201d he says. \u201cThese guys are on dating websites, in supermarkets, and even in clubs and other locations. Women can focus on talking to these guys instead of immediately passing them up.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From obsessing over \u201cthe spark\u201d to appreciating the slow-burning flame.<\/strong> One of Safran\u2019s key pieces of advice applies to women in their 20s and<\/em> 30s: \u201cBe open to dates that someone isn’t \u2018perfect\u2019 on paper. Give someone a chance if they don’t give you that spark right away; most people state that lasting relationships are often built on friendship and trust over a hot physical spark.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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