Most of us know the usual ways to impress someone on a date—being confident, dressing well, or making the person you’re with laugh—but what are the not-so-obvious things you can do that really impress someone? We asked Mark Rosenfeld, dating coach for Make Him Yours, to tell us some of the ways to impress a man that we might not have thought of yet, and what he shared with us were some pretty enlightening tips.
Hey it’s Mark here, Australian dating coach for women from Make Him Yours. And today, I am going through the five unusual ways you can impress a guy on the first date. Stick around until the end of the video as well. I’ve got a free gift for you. Stay tuned.
All right. Unusual ways to impress a guy on a first date. Now, we all know the common ones. We all know that confidence is impressive. We all know passion is impressive. We all know intelligence is impressive. Things like that. But, what are some more unusual ways to impress a guy? And what are some things guys are looking for that really standout?
Well the first one is simply this:
1. Have other people warm to you.
You see, on a date it’s really easy to get focused on the one person. Men do this as well. And, forget everyone else who’s around. One of the most impressive things I’ve seen, and I’ve spoken to men and they’ve seen this as well, is when a woman is able to make amazing impressions on others who are around. So when the Uber driver, or when the waitress, or even an elderly gentlemen in an elevator, when they respond to you in a warm, excited way, and the guy sees that, that is going to be so impressive to him. See, men are so used to having someone focused on them during the date. And, when you show that as part of your world, you radiate a light that just draws others in, and warms others, and they want to spend time around you, it communicates to the guy that you have a presence that he is going to want to be around in the future.
The second one is this:
2. Be willing to break rapport.
See again, when we’re on a date we really want things to go well. And we want to share common interests and find common interests with that person. So, it’s tempting when we like someone a little too much to not want to disagree with them at all. Let’s say for example, you’re not a strong dog or cat person, but you tend to prefer cats. And he makes a statement like, “God, dogs are so much better than cats. They’re friendly and they’re cool. I’m such a dog person. Can’t believe anyone could be a cat person.” And he says, “What about you?” It’s tempting when you hear this to wanna kinda agree with him and go, “Yeah, no. Dogs are pretty cool in that way.” Or even if you’re on the fence to just say, “Look, I could go either way.” But, what really stands out to a guy is when you’re willing to hold your own and speak your opinions to him. When you say, “No actually, I’m more of a cat person. I think they’re more independent and just plain cooler.” And you can get into a fun little debate with him about that. A guy is going to respect that because he knows you’re not going to change who you are or your opinions for him, no matter how much you like him. And, it makes him see you as a cut above.
3. Show him you don’t have an agenda.
No one likes agendas in dating. If you’ve ever had a guy come at you and just want sex, and to just talk to you because you can sense that he has an agenda and just wants sex. You know what a turn off that is. Well, men are also used to meeting women who come at them with an agenda for a relationship. So, when you just show that you’re there purely to get to know him, you’re not wanting anything out of it, you’re just spontaneous and enjoying it for what it is, a guy is going to notice that. It’s going to stand out. He’s going to go, who is this high-value woman? And, how is she so happy in her life that she doesn’t want anything from me? She’s just happy exactly where she is. She’s not putting pressure on. She’s just getting to know me. The irony of this is that he then wonders why you’re so high-value, and wants to get you into a relationship. Even if you’re really into him, if you show men that you’re still expecting them to qualify themselves to you, and you’re still just taking things as they come and enjoying it for what it is, a guy is going to be seriously impressed.
4. Offer to pay for yourself on dates.
I cannot tell you how big of a turn-on it is when a woman offers to pay herself and pays her share. Now, whether the guy chooses to be chivalrous and reject your offer, or chooses to accept it, it’s the offer that’s most important. When you offer to pay for yourself, it communicates something really powerful—that you believe you are his equal. This is seriously impressive to men. You see, no one likes entitlement, right? He doesn’t want to feel like you have this entitlement opinion where you’re entitled for him to pay just because you’re female. Just as he shouldn’t feel entitled to sex because he pays. No one likes entitlement in dating; it’s a huge turn off. So, make sure you offer to pay for yourself. Show that you believe you’re his equal in that way and that you want to contribute, and hopefully he rejects your offer, and will be chivalrous regardless.
Fifth one is simply this:
5. Outwit him.
If you can have fun little social debates with a guy where you outwit him and out-sass him, he is going to be so impressed on a first date. Like let’s say he says to you, “See, I’m a dog person. This is why I’m cooler than you. I’m actually fun to be around.” And you say to him, “Ohh. Yeah right. So, this means you come when called and I get to tell you what to do. Yeah no. You and me, we’re going to work out really well here.” If you can have fun little debates like that with him and put him on his heels, he is going to be seriously impressed by that. Now, it does take practice. It’s not something that—certainly didn’t come naturally to me, and doesn’t always come naturally. But, the more you practice, the more you get out there and meet men, have fun, and just be in the moment, the more that relaxed-sass is going to flow through you, and you’re going to have fun little debates where you outwit men.
Well, those are the five ways unusual ways to impress him on a first date. I hope you enjoyed.
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Well, that’s it. Thank you so much for watching.