If you’re a man in his 50s who has taken a break from dating after some time or are re-entering the dating scene for the first time in decades, it’s hard to know what to expect. Dating in your 50s is pretty much what you remember from your 20s—it’s still exciting and nerve-wrecking, while communication and connection continue to be important. However, dating women in their 50s compared to women in their 20s is a completely different experience.
Dating a woman in her 50s means you’re dating a woman who is finished with repeating the same mistakes, and is ready to find her grown-up love story.
If that sounds exciting to you, here are seven additional things to keep in mind about women in their 50s.
1. They don’t always need a relationship.
A woman in her 50s has learned that she doesn’t need a relationship in order to be happy. She has a full life, including close friends, family, and plenty of hobbies and interests. So if a woman in her 50s is interested in dating you, chances are she thinks you’re worth her time. If you turn out to be just another dependent, she’ll simply move on because a woman in her 50s is very rarely clingy.
2. They know what they want.
A woman in her 50s knows what she wants in life, including in her relationships. Which is why she is way better at choosing a compatible partner than she ever was in her 20s. Her maturity also means she can easily communicate her wants—outside or inside of the bedroom—clearly and effectively. There aren’t any guessing games with a woman in her 50s. If you can’t do the same, she’ll show you the door.
3. They’re sexy AF.
If you ever doubted the sexiness of a woman in her 50s, then take a look at Elle Macpherson, Cindy Crawford, or Michelle Pfeiffer. They’re all women in their 50s who are just as gorgeous and sexy, if not more so, than they were in their 20s and 30s. A woman in her 50s knows the importance of taking care of herself, which includes working out, eating well, and receiving regular spa treatments. If anything, her age has bestowed a newfound confidence that is nothing short of hot.
4. They’re not worried about their biological clock.
More than likely a woman in her 50s already has kids who are now grown up or moving out of her house any day now. Her schedule is no longer tied down to shuttling between baseball practice and doctor appointments, nor is she pressured to find “The One” ASAP due to a ticking biological clock. She is free to enjoy getting to know you, and letting your relationship flow easily. If you’re also a father, her maternal instinct means she’ll have no trouble bonding with her brood, either. Bonus? Her time and attention is primarily dedicated to you.
5. They can make conversation.
No longer awkward or uncomfortable due to the inexperience and insecurity of her youth, a woman in her 50s knows not only on how to hold a conversation, but she also knows how to steer one. She’ll let you talk about yourself, while also ensuring she shares enough about herself. Her confidence means she isn’t afraid to be vulnerable and laugh at herself either. Expect a smooth, flowy conversation peppered with witty jokes that will surely make your night.
6. They’re over their exes.
More than likely, a woman who’s dating in her 50s is over her ex. This means she doesn’t want to bond over your baggage either. She’s not down to reminisce about past hurts or regrets, and she’s mature enough to halt any negative speak about her ex or yours. She’s intent to move forward with her life, and hopefully, with you in it.
7. They’re happier than ever.
A woman in her 50s is happier than she’s ever been. She’s probably experienced more than enough of Oprah’s infamous “aha” moments to understand and accept (and love) who she is. She’s no longer riddled with the anxiety and insecurity of her 20s and 30s. She appreciates life for all that it is, including both the ups and downs, and is committed to making the most out of the time she has.
Like a fine wine, a woman in her 50s has only gotten better with time. If you’re lucky enough to date her, it’s sure to be an extraordinary experience.