man sitting at kitchen table learning how to write a dating profile for a man

Let’s be honest here. Typically, online dating is a bit harder for men, and it’s easy to be left wondering how to write a dating profile for a man! Women often have their inboxes flooded with responses (some genuine, some disturbing) but men often face a lack of responses and some hurt feelings. 

Guys, it might not be you. The women you’ve contacted may just be wading through random ‘what’s up’ messages from non-contenders, preventing them from giving you a timely response back. 

If you think that your dating profile needs a little bit of sprucing, you should follow your gut. It’s always good to refresh your dating profile and make sure there’s nothing in there that’s making women reluctant to message you first. Here are a few tips that’ll help you make better matches. 

What You Want to Know About How to Write a Dating Profile for a Man

  1. Don’t use recycled jokes

It was funny when Chris Rock said it, it’s less funny when it’s in your profile. If anything, write down that you’re a fan of stand-up comedy and try to bring up the conversation on your first date.

Otherwise, quotes might come off badly or out of place, or simply look like filler because you can’t think of other original things to say. The same goes for movie quotes. Out of context, they often bomb. 

  1. Make sure not to lie about your height, even if you’re insecure

Short guys may feel like they have a disadvantage, but if they’ve got a great personality, it’s not really an issue for most women. The part that makes a difference is whether or not you’re lying about it.

Girls can tell if a guy says he’s 5’10” but he’s 5’6″. That deception right off the bat will make you look untrustworthy. Just be honest, and give your date something better to focus on. 

  1. Lay off the sexual humor

Obviously you’re hoping to meet someone and eventually have a healthy sex life. But the best relationships require a lot more than that. If you mention dirty jokes or innuendo in your profile, you might come off as being a little creepy or immature.

These conversations will come naturally once you’ve built a rapport with someone else. Unless you’re aiming for a quick hookup, make sure to showcase your better attributes first.

  1. Don’t come off as being too cocky

If you list all of the reasons why you’re great, you’re selling yourself too hard. Nobody’s perfect, and there aren’t any girls out there who are seeking a guy who brags about his high school achievements, especially if he graduated ten years ago. Find one thing you’re really proud of and focus on that. 

If there are a lot of things that you want to mention, remember that you’re not aiming to tell your entire life story. If you’re looking for a long-lasting relationship, you both have plenty of time to get to know each other.

  1. Unleash your sense of humor

Try getting them interested with a funny joke or anecdote. There’s not one girl out there who’d be turned off by a good sense of humor. By making her smile right off the bat, you’re showing that you have a good personality.

Jokes are also great conversation-starters. The joke you write should be clever, inoffensive, and perhaps even thought-provoking. Cute puns or some type of play-on-words are always a hit. 

  1. Don’t be too negative

You don’t have to justify a dating gap or talk about your recent bad luck when it comes to dating. This isn’t a resume, it’s a snapshot of you. If your profile is a downer, women are going to assume that you’ll be even harder on yourself in person. Those types of interactions can become awkward for both parties. 

Even if your confidence is shot, try hard to be optimistic about the dating scene. Sell yourself. You have more positive attributes than your brain often wants you to think. 

  1. Don’t expect a ton of responses if you’re looking for a unicorn

That is, if you’re aiming to date a non-drinker who’s physically fit, doesn’t want children, likes the same type of music as you, and happens to be a redhead, you’re naturally weeding out a bunch of potential women and ultimately setting yourself up to fail. 

Try to be more open about the kind of women you want to meet. Sometimes, you might realize that your preferences have actually changed from what you think they are. While some things are definite deal-breakers, like their thoughts on children, others like musical taste and hair color don’t matter half as much. 

  1. Keep your profile photo fresh

If you’re using a photo from eight years ago that you happen to like, you’re not being very truthful. Same goes if your facial hair has changed up a lot, maybe you’re currently rocking a mustache, but have a fresh-faced photo as your default image.

Many dating sites have galleries, so you can still feel free to add these past photos, just don’t make them the first pictures that women see. 

  1. Remember, you’re not going to impress everyone

Even with the best profile and most flattering photos, there are going to be people out there who aren’t interested. Don’t take it personally, or shift the blame onto them. People are attracted to different things. There’s probably a ton of nice girls you didn’t pursue things with due to a lack of chemistry or appeal, so it’s important to remember that it works both ways. 

If you’re a likable person who happens to make friends fairly easily, your profile will probably be a lot of fun. When stuck on how to write a dating profile for a man, just remember, this is a reflection on you. If you fill your page with lines that you assume women will like, and not things that accurately portray who you are, you’re not going to meet the love of your life. So just be real and enjoy the process. 

Karen Belz

Freelance Writer

Karen Belz has written for sites like Bustle, PreviouslyTV, Heavy, and HelloGiggles. She’s also the founder of Best Recap Ever, a site that’s focused on television news and reviews. She’s a fan of sketch comedy shows and most movies that involve Muppets, and has been addicted to Sugar Free Red Bull since 2005.