Sex is an important part of your relationship. It’s a way to show love and be intimate, and it’s also a lot of fun. But if you find that your sex if starting to feel routine or boring, don’t worry. We have five exciting steps to maintain and revive a healthy sex life.
1. Educate Yourself
Sex doesn’t have to be mysterious or taboo, but it’s still often seen as an off-limits topic. Thankfully, there’re plenty of opportunities to increase your sexual knowledge. Take the time to explore and learn more about what you like and don’t like.
- Take Classes – check out if there are any educational sessions in your local area. You can learn about safe sex practices, explore topics in a group setting, and interact with like-minded people
- Check the Internet – finding trustworthy resources on the internet can be a bit of a challenge, but if you know where to look, you can find lots of great places where you can increase your knowledge of sex.
- Experiment Yourself– there’s no better way to find out what you do and don’t like than trying it for yourself. If you know what you like, you can communicate better with your partner, making sex more enjoyable for both of you.
2. Make Little Changes
Expanding your sexual horizons doesn’t have to mean making big changes if you’re not ready for that. Trying out a new position, a new toy, or a new product can have a bigger impact than you think. If you always have sex in the morning, try doing it in the evening, or if you are always in the missionary position, switch it up. A healthy sex life is full of variety! Buy a vibrator or another toy and have fun, or experiment with your senses. A simple blindfold, a scented candle, or a new soundtrack can have a profound effect on your lovemaking.
3. Communication is Key
It’s essential to communicate with your partner on an intimate level. A recent survey showed that men and women often have very different expectations when it comes to sex. But there’s no way your partner can know what you like and what you expect unless you tell them. Make it a point to have judgment-free conversations about sex whenever you can.
When trying out new things, check in often. Ask “is this ok?” and verbalize what you like and don’t like as it happens. Consent is always important to a healthy sex life, no matter how well you know your partner. Take some time to talk about the experience afterward, discuss what you liked best and what could have made it even better. Over time, healthy communication builds trust and security, which is something you should have within any relationship.
Communication regarding all sexual topics is important. Before getting intimate with anyone, communicate with your partner about their sexual health status. Though this conversation may feel a little awkward, you’ll be glad you had it.
4. Love Yourself
Before you can be a great partner and love others, you have to love yourself. Keeping your body and mind healthy is an important step towards having a healthy sex life. Try dancing or yoga to get your body moving, improve your flexibility and clear your mind of all the stress of day-to-day life. Connect with your own body and find things to love about yourself. If you’re more comfortable in your own skin, your confidence in the bedroom will improve as well. And don’t forget to eat healthy foods and get enough rest. Take care of yourself, whether you have a long-term partner or not.
If you don’t feel good about your body, it can be harder to enjoy sex. Realize that it’s unlikely that your partner is focusing on those few extra pounds or the stretch marks that are so noticeable to you. No one has a “perfect body,” no matter what magazines or TV tell you.
5. Focus on the Moment
It’s easy to get lost in the stresses of day-to-day life, but the last thing we want to be thinking about during sex is our to-do list. If you find that your mind is wandering when you start to get intimate, take a step back. You want to be able to turn off all the noise and stress and really let your whole body relax so you can experience the enjoyment of sex fully.
If you have trouble focusing, sometimes thinking about a fantasy can bring you into the moment. Putting yourself into a role can be a great way to shut off your brain’s anxiety.
A healthy sex life can lead to helping your relationship grow in all aspects. Take the steps you need to create the sex life that you and your partner deserve, enjoying the intimacy, experimenting and exploration on the way.