Hi. Hey. Hello. What’s up? If these are the types of messages you’re sending while online dating, the time has come to try something new. According to recent data put together by AskMen and the online dating site Zoosk, saying hello or hi in an online dating message can actually hurt your chances of getting a response.

So what does work? Here’s a look into the data about what online dating conversation starters woman actually respond to:

online dating conversation starters that get women to respond.

Megan Murray

Editor-in-Chief of The Date Mix

Megan Murray is the Editor-in-Chief of The Date Mix and works at the online dating site and app Zoosk, that has over 40 million members worldwide. She splits her time between writing for The Date Mix and working on the Zoosk product, which gives her behind-the-scenes knowledge about the world of online dating.