How to Use Bumble If You’ve Never Used a Dating App

If you’ve never used a dating app beforedon’t panic. They’re not as intimidating as they seem. Just think of them as a coffee shop or a bar, except online.

Dating apps are a great way to meet people these days, whether you’re looking for something casual, a relationship, or even a new friend. 

If you rarely frequent clubs, the men in your office are all married, and you’re at a loss how to meet new people, then I’ve got just the thing for you:

Bumble!

What is Bumble, and how does it work?
Bumble is pretty similar to other dating apps out there, but what sets it apart is that women go first.

Women have to make the first move on the app, which is great because in my experience on dating apps, straight men can often fall into one of three categories:

  1. Boring
  2. Creepy
  3. Useless

If the woman doesn’t start a chat with one of her male matches in 24 hours, then the match vanishes—forever.

What makes Bumble unique?
Apart from giving women all the power, Bumble is not just for dating.

Bumble is comprised of three different sections:

  1. Bumble Datefor people looking for dates or relationships
  2. Bumble BFFfor people looking to make new friends
  3. Bumble Bizzfor professionals wanting to network in their industry

Each section allows you to rebuild a different profile, and explain what you’re looking for.

Bumble also allows you to connect your Instagram and Spotify accounts to your profile, which helps people to get to know you a little better before swiping yes or no.

Additionally, Bumble is known for attracting people who tend to be looking for a relationship rather than just a casual hookup – so if you’re relationship minded, then this might just be the app for you.

What to do
Download the app
Bumble is totally free to download from the App Store and Google Play Store right now!

It’s simple and quick to do, and is a great baby step to taking control of your dating life, and becoming the creator of your own dating destiny.

Make a profile
Remember, all anyone has to go on on a dating app is your profile. Think of it as your 3 minute elevator pitch, or your resume when applying for a new job.

You only have a short window to make a big impression – so take your time filling this out.

Your main profile picture is your opener. Make sure it’s clear, and represents who you really are. And don’t try and edit it! 

Your profile description is where you fill out your age, job, and a short bio. Fill this out in a way that helps others get a feel for who you are – this way you’ll be able to attract the kind of person you’re looking for.

You can also add your employer, university & graduation year too.

Sort your preferences
Next it’s time to choose an age and distance range, and what you’re looking for: men, women, men & women, or a BFF.

Swipe through photos of potential mates
Get ready to start swiping!

You’ll be shown potential matches based on the info you filled in. If you like them, swipe right. If it’s a no from you, swipe left. 

Try and remember not to go on looks alone. Take the time to read their bio, and give people a chance. You never know who could end up surprising you.

Both women and men will be swiping here, but if both swipe yes on each other and it’s a match, then all the power is in the woman’s hands. Only she can make the first move and send a message.

This helps women feel a little bit safer and protected from the avalanche of abuse and harassment that are rife on dating apps.

Matches
All matches will show up in your match queue, which can be found by hitting the message icon in the top right corner of the screen.

You’ll be shown a green circle with people who are interested in you but you didn’t swipe yes for, and a row of everyone you have matched with.

Ready to chat?
Underneath that, you’ll see conversations. Tap on the icon of a person you matched with, and a chat bubble will open giving you the woman the opportunity to send a first message. 

You’ve got 24 hours to do this before the match expires, and you’ll have to match again if you want to have another shot.

Keep things fun, light, and witty in your first message.

If for whatever reason you want to cut communication with someone, you can unmatch them or block them in just a few taps.

Have fun, and don’t take rejection personally
The thing about dating apps is you have no control over anyone’s actions apart from your own. So if someone doesn’t respond, flakes on plans, or ends up ghosting you, try your best not to take it personally. 

Apps have given rise to a culture where people don’t believe they owe others an explanation when they lose interest, and it’s all too easy for them to bail and not look back. 

If you’re on a dating app looking for love, chances are this will happen to you at some point. So go into it with a thick skin, and remember that when someone rejects you, it’s about them not you.

Stay safe, and have fun.

Shani Jay

Bestselling Author and Empowerment Coach

Shani is a bestselling author, empowerment coach for women, and self-love advocate. She is the author of Bloom, The Babe Bible, Glow Getter, and Light Up Your Life; and her writing has been featured on many internationally recognized platforms including The Huffington Post, Thought Catalog, and Teen Vogue.

​In 2016 Shani founded The Glow Getter Tribe – a self-love & kindness movement which helps young girls & women worldwide feel happy, confident and beautiful starting from the inside, out.

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