Feeling overwhelmed by your online dating experience? If so, you’re not alone. “It can be confusing to know the right way to make contact and get the conversation started,” says James Preece, UK’s Leading Dating Coach and Dating Expert. To make the most of your time online, follow these 5 online dating tips:
1) Send short and impactful messages.
Spending hours drafting long messages can really zap your energy and motivation. You’re better off keeping your messages short, sweet, and personalized. Three or four lines is plenty, provided you mention something that shows you are interested in more than just a pretty face.
2) Learn to scan properly.
Scan your matches’ profiles—don’t analyze them. Focus on the pieces that will make great conversation topics. Also, pay close attention to those deal breakers. Once you’ve started messaging, spend more time reading and evaluating his or her profile.
3) Improve your wink game.
When you wink, your match will probably check you out to learn more. Make the most of your flirty introduction by sending a message shortly after winking to maximize your chances of receiving a response.
4) Take little breaks.
If you’re going on several dates a week, it’s easy to get overwhelmed. Avoid burn out by giving yourself some breaks. For every few dates you schedule, give yourself enough time to learn about each person before planning more dates.
5) Get to the meeting.
The purpose of online dating is to meet people in the real world. Once you’ve exchanged enough messages to get a feel for your favorite match, encourage a real date. Save your in depth conversations for your first date.
James Preece provides relationship expertise for a wide variety of areas, including matchmaking, speed dating, and one-on-one coaching. For more information, visit www.jamespreece.com.