Getting a text from a guy you like is exciting. It means he was thinking about you and that he wanted to talk to you. But texting can also be frustrating, because you don’t always know what it means or how to read the situation.
Texting lacks the context you get from in-person conversations; without seeing him, it can be hard to tell his tone, mood, and body language. And unless he outright states his intentions—which guys rarely do, even though women are attracted to honesty—it can also be hard to tell what he wants your relationship to be.
We don’t want to generalize, but most guys hate texting. So, if a guy is texting you every day, it has to mean something—right? Maybe, maybe not. It all depends on the context.
Some days you might throw your hands up in frustration and wonder, What does it mean? Does he like me? Or does he just see me as a friend? Unfortunately, we don’t have one simple “yes” or “no” answer; dating is more complicated and nuanced than that. But we can walk through different scenarios to help you understand if he’s into you or not.
What does he text you?
If you want to know if a guy is into you or not, the biggest clue lies not in how often he texts you, but what he texts you. Does he send you funny memes, reference inside jokes to make you laugh, and start conversations because something reminded him of you? These positive “just because” texts are a great sign that he’s into you.
Does he get personal?
In addition to “just because” texts, more serious texts are a good sign that he’s into you as well. If he shares personal details or opens up about personal issues going on in his life, it means he values your opinion and is comfortable being emotional around you. Similarly, it’s a good sign if he asks you questions about your life. It means 1. That he’s invested in your wellbeing and 2. That he wants to hear from you.
How much does he write?
Like we said, most guys hate texting. So, if he takes the time to send you long messages, it probably means that he likes you. A lot. But don’t worry! If he sends you short texts, it doesn’t automatically mean that he doesn’t like you; it just means that he doesn’t like writing a lot. Oh, and if he texts you first? He likes you. Period.
Does he send flirty texts?
If a guy texts you every day but you can’t tell if he likes you or not, one of the biggest giveaways is if he flirts with you. Not sexting—that definitely means he likes you—but more subtle, playful comments. Does he get suggestive? Does he talk about what you’d be doing if you were together? These are flirty texts. If you’re not sure, test the waters by sending a flirty text of your own. If he’s into you, he’ll be all over it and match your tone right away.
Does he say goodbye?
These days, most text conversations naturally come to a close on their own. Someone gets busy, you run out of things to say, or both. People rarely acknowledge when they’re going to stop texting you—but if a guy is trying to impress you, he might. If he politely announces when he’s going to stop texting back, it may be a sign that he’s into you.
These aren’t hard and fast rules, and every situation is different. But if you pay attention to these factors the next time he texts you, hopefully, you’ll get a better idea of if he likes you or not.