Are Tall Women Dating at a Disadvantage?

A tall woman dating, smiling in a field at twilight.

When you’re a tall woman, you often get asked a very cliché question. “Do you play basketball?” Aside from any sort of proven athletic ability, people associate tall women with the popular sport. Because of course, being tall is an advantage so you MUST play basketball right?

Sigh, wrong.

Likewise, while dating a lot of people assume that tall women only want to date tall men. Or that they’re somehow not as attractive to not-so-tall men who want to feel that way. But when it comes to dating, do tall women really have a disadvantage?

By now, most singles realize that people come in all shapes and sizes. When it comes to finding someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, compassion for others and a kind heart are so much more important than whether or not they’re teetering around the six foot mark.

If you’re a tall woman and are still worried that your height might limit the field, here’s why it’s not as bad as you may think:

Tall means powerful.
A lot of people look at a tall woman and see confidence and strength. So even if you’re not really feeling that way on the inside, you might be giving off some incredibly positive vibes. When you reach a certain age, traits like assertiveness are much more important to have—not just for others, but for yourself. And when you’re tall, you pretty much have a head start on everyone else when it comes to making sure you’re always heard.

You immediately weed out the people who you’d be incompatible with.
So, some guy doesn’t feel comfortable dating a tall woman? That’s like refusing to date someone with green eyes. Or, not giving someone a chance since one of their teeth is slightly crooked. People have preferences, yes, but shutting someone down immediately based on a physical trait they were born with is a little vapid. Especially if you have compatible personalities otherwise. Often times, ditching someone for a natural reason like height means there’s a specific insecurity the other person has—but blaming it on the tall girl is just easier. So if you get rejected since you’re too tall, consider that to be a bullet dodged.

If someone’s major physical turn on is legs, well, you’ve got ’em.
It’s just the way it is. The taller you are, the longer legs you have. And by now, you’re probably a pro at making sure those legs know how to shine. Sure, someone won’t date you just for your legs (at least, hopefully not) but if they’re included in the description of someone’s ultimate match, you better believe they’ll be specifically seeking out a tall girl.

Tall women know what it’s like to be in the minority.
When you’re the tallest girl in class, people make sure you know it. It’s important to be different and stand out, but it can also be quite polarizing at times. That means that tall women usually have compassion towards others who might not fit in the so-called average category. They know that it’s important to treat everyone with respect, regardless of their physical traits and personal quirks. So really, that means that means that their dating field is pretty open.

Tall women often have a closet filled with clothes that fit well and give them extra confidence, meaning that they’ll always look spectacular on dates.
When you’re tall, your best friend probably isn’t the tailor. In fact, you might never have needed to get clothes altered at all. So many shirts and dresses have been created to fit bodies much like yours. Sure, you’ll have to worry about some of them being cut a little too short, but at least it’ll look intentional if it happens, as opposed to looking dowdy. Tall women can really pull off a ton of different styles, meaning they can be date-ready in minutes.

Tall women know that shorter guys are scientifically better boyfriends.
It’s true—there was a study done that shows that shorter guys are less likely to divorce than average to taller guys. So, when people of average height haphazardly throw away the chance to date a guy slightly shorter, a tall girl will have no problem giving them a well-deserved shot. Really, shorter men shouldn’t worry too much about asking a taller girl out. Tall girls are confident enough to not worry about what others would think, and know that height doesn’t matter.

Tall women are special, even though society often tries to bring them down. Yes, they’ve heard your “how’s the weather up there” joke about 15 times before—and for the record, it doesn’t get more amusing the more it’s told. Tall women who are currently looking for their significant other know that the one wouldn’t be put off by a few extra inches. If a man really has a problem being the shorter person in the relationship, so much that they wouldn’t even give a tall girl a shot, obviously the problem lies with them.

Karen Belz

Freelance Writer

Karen Belz has written for sites like Bustle, PreviouslyTV, Heavy, and HelloGiggles. She’s also the founder of Best Recap Ever, a site that’s focused on television news and reviews. She’s a fan of sketch comedy shows and most movies that involve Muppets, and has been addicted to Sugar Free Red Bull since 2005.

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