When You’re Dating Over 40, It All Starts With the Person in the Mirror

More and more adults who are dating over 40 have never been married or are divorced and out there again for another round. Meeting the right person is about as difficult as winning the Publisher’s Clearing House Sweepstakes (but someone always wins)! My recently published book, “Single and Not Settling!  A Journey of Surviving the Dating World” is relatable to any woman or man who is going through the dating maze.

I experienced it all from speed dating to internet dating. I went on dozens and dozens of blind dates and first dates; hung out with friends at local singles bars and spent summers sharing single’s houses in vacation communities. I had several proposals as well as two broken engagements, and forged wonderful bonds of friendship with other single women. Through it all, I experienced extreme highs and heartbreaking lows—many laughs and too many tears. I realized there were millions of others out there going through the same exact thing. As much as I consider myself a private person, it was important for me to share my journey and give advice and tips to help others.

My memoir has 13 chapters ranging from different ways to meet people, why you may be single and dating over 40, do’s and don’t when dating, and how not to blame yourself; but be realistic, as well as many more topics. What’s important to know is we need to look at the person in the mirror and learn from past experiences in order to realize that each person you come across is a learning experience. They come into your life for a reason, either to teach you a lesson, give you a second chance, or hopefully to find your true love. You never know when or where you are going to meet the one for you.

Single and Not Settling - A new book by Tonia DeCosimo

So get yourself out there! Whether it’s on dating sites such as Zoosk, summer or winter home shares, the dog park, or a singles cruise. And while you’re out there, pick up my book, “Single and Not Settling”.  Know that you should never settle, but also know that you shouldn’t be looking for the impossible either.

Tonia DeCosimo

Author on Dating and Relationships

Tonia, a successful entrepreneur, received her B.S. degree in Elementary Education and English from Manhattan College. Her career path, however, took her into the fields of marketing, publishing, and sales consulting in which she has worked successfully for the past 25 years. During that time, she has built and managed several companies including her own.

When she’s not busy building her career or dishing out dating advice, Tonia is the proud step-mom of two teenagers, resides on Long Island with her husband.

To read more of Tonia’s work and learn about her book Single and Not Settling, visit toniadecosimo.com or follower her on Twitter at @ToniaDeCosimo.

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