Dating Tips from My 15-Year-Old Self

This 15-year-old girl staring at her notebook has some creative dating tips only a teenager could deliver.

Sometimes the most profound wisdom comes from the most unexpected places. Like, for example, the diary I once kept as a teenager. Between tear-stained pages and top ten lists of my favorite celebrities and TV shows (Sandra Bullock! Friends!) were some poignant and sage advice that only a 15-year-old can really deliver. To help you all out I decided to share some of the more thoughtful dating tips. Enjoy.

It’s OK to be both feminist AND old-fashioned romantic.
I know I see myself as a feminist and independent woman, but there are occasions when I just want a guy. None of this teenaged puppy love crap, but true romance. Maybe I’m way older than my years, but I want to be swept off my feet. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with this either!

What’s Wrong With Being Confident?
On Monday I’m getting my hair cut and highlighted and I am just going to wow him and he’s going to want to go out with me, no question. He’s going to be BEGGING to go out with me. I am going to be so confident and gorgeous (as always).

Take Advantage of Each Opportunity
There was a chance to talk to him tonight and I completely blew it. I’m, to say the least, disappointed in myself. I’ve banged my head against the wall so many times, it’s amazing I don’t have brain damage. I regret everything I didn’t do tonight. Now I’m more determined than ever to meet up with him again and tell him how I feel. After all, you only get one shot at life so I might as well use it. I don’t want any regrets.

You Gotta Feel Allll Your Feelings
I’m crying because what I have left of him are strictly memories. I’m crying because we never got a real chance. I’m crying because I hope he doesn’t screw up the rest of his life. I care about him. He was once a stranger in my life, and now he’s become almost a part of me. I’ve been praying for him. You don’t do that for people who don’t mean anything to you. I know this was meant to be, though. Everything is. I’m not done crying, and I will miss him, but I am oddly at peace.

If He Wants You, He’ll Make it Happen
He was looking at me on countless occasions. AND he took my hand. I know he’s into it. My friends say the same thing. It’s almost obvious. So if he’s interested, then why won’t he make a real move for crying out loud? Whatever happened to chivalry? I refuse to believe it’s dead. If a guy wants me, he’ll make it happen.

Know What You Want and Don’t Settle For Less
He gave me his phone number to stay in touch but made it clear that it’s only as “friends.” Thanks for the number, pal, but I’m not going to use it. I’m not calling him out of my dignity and self-respect. I’m not in it for a friendship and I won’t settle for less than what I want.

Self-Awareness and Doing YOU Is Key
Oh my god I skimmed through the earlier entries of this diary and I am so embarrassed! I can’t believe how immature I was about my love life. Here I was saying how much I wanted to be pursued, and I was chasing two guys! UGH. This year will be different. I will only bother with guys who are 100% interested in me and who want to make it happen with me, not the other way around. Other than that, I’m going to focus on what makes me happy.

Believe in Love
I don’t want this “hanging out” crap but some honest, old-fashioned dating and real love. I know I might be asking a lot for a 15-year-old, considering males mature slower than us, but I believe I’ll find what I’m looking for. It’s just when that’s the problem. Frustrated? Only sometimes. I know my time will come.

Brianne Hogan

Freelance Writer

Brianne is a Canadian freelance writer who’s been writing about dating and relationships longer than any of her relationships. She applies a “do what I say, not do what I do” approach to her articles, and believes you can find Your Person mostly when you aren’t looking. So enjoy your life, and eat lots of cheese (at least that’s her motto). Her byline’s been featured on Thrillist, The Huffington Post, HelloGiggles, Elle Canada, Flare, Awesomeness TV, among others.

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