Hey betches. If you’ve stumbled upon this article you either 1) genuinely want to learn some useful dating tips or 2) you literally have nothing better to do than read another millennial dating article. Whatever your motivation is, I can assure you that you’ve come to the wrong place. Unless you’re looking for actual, real life-changing advice you should just leave right now.
No? Okay. Let’s move on.
Let’s get right to the point—dating sucks for everyone and trust me, no one knows how to do it. Take it from a former sorority girl, I literally had no interest in dating for the first two years of my college experience. Why waste precious time chasing one guy when you can go to a frat party and leave with whoever you want? Beats me. But whether you’re dating, into one night stands, or into a combo always abide by these three rules:
Rule #1: Don’t listen to societal standards.
Why can guys hook up with as many girls as they want and be considered a stud, but when a woman does it she’s a slore? You know what, screw those double standards. Don’t think that every guy you sleep with needs to be your next boyfriend—90% of the time he certainly doesn’t think that way about you. If you really genuinely like a guy and only sleep with people you have feelings for, then that’s totally okay too. You do you and don’t worry about what anyone else has to say about it.
Rule #2: Don’t get attached and move on quickly.
One thing I had an issue with early on in college was getting attached to guys. If you start seeing someone and then find out he is just not that into you, don’t waste your time and your heart. If it wasn’t meant to be, it wasn’t meant to be. There are plenty of other people out there that are more deserving of your heart (and body). Don’t dwell on the ones that got away, it’ll only make moving on that much harder.
Rule #3: Have fun with it.
I know it’s cliché, but just have fun with it. Don’t take dating too seriously. It shouldn’t feel like a chore—dating should be something that you’re genuinely super excited to do. If you’re spending hours a day crafting that perfect text to send to someone, chances are it’s not worth it. The conversation should come naturally. A fun and natural conversation translates well over into an actual relationship. Trust me.
Now I’m no dating expert, but when I stopped caring what other people thought and started having more fun I met “the one.” Dating has a reputation for being scary, frustrating, and expensive. And yeah, it totally can be that way. But the moment you let down your boundaries and allow yourself to be who you really are is when the magic truly happens.