Over 120 Tinder Openers to Help You Break the Ice

A woman responding to one of these Tinder openers and Tinder icebreakers and flirting and laughing with the guy she's talking to.

When you’re on a dating app like Tinder one of the hardest things is knowing what to say to start a conversation. Do you ask a question? Just say hello? Try to be flirty? The truth is, different people respond to different messages. Some people will see a simple hello, go check out your photos and profile, then get interested and respond back. Others may think a simple hello isn’t enough and will pass on a conversation.

The key is to try a lot of things and see what works for you. Below we’ve put together a massive list of over 120 Tinder openers so you can get a good idea of how to start your own conversations. You can pick and choose which ones work for for you, then use them as inspiration to write your own.

Tinder Openers: Simple Ways to Say Hi

  1. Hey there, how was your weekend?
  2. Hi, how’s your week going?
  3. Hi. How are you on this lovely day?
  4. Hi. What have you been up to lately?
  5. Hey, are you having a nice day?
  6. Hi, any fun plans coming up?
  7. Hi, I hope your week is going well.
  8. Hi, how are you?
  9. Well, hi there. How’s life treating you?
  10. Hey there, how are things in your life?
  11. Just stopping by to say hello. Hello!
  12. I just had to say hi to you. Hi!
  13. Hi. How are things with you?
  14. How’s your day going so far?
  15. I hope you’re having a nice day.
  16. Hi. Are you having a nice day?
  17. Just wanted to say hi!
  18. Well, hi! How are things?
  19. Hope your day is going well. What have you been up to?
  20. Hey, how are things going with you?
  21. Hi, what are you up to right now?

Tinder Openers: Fun and Flirty

  1. Oh good, I was hoping we’d match.
  2. I’m not going to lie. I was really hoping you’d say yes to me.
  3. You were the person I was really hoping would say yes.
  4. Seeing that we matched just made me day. What are you up to?
  5. Do you ever feel like something really great is about to happen? I kind of feel that way now.
  6. I’m so glad you swiped right. 🙂
  7. I kind of, sort of, well, pretty much think you seem amazing.
  8. If we were in school, you’d be the girl I’d pass notes to in class.
  9. Wow, I can’t believe we matched. I mean, I was hoping but didn’t think you’d say yes.
  10. If you wanted to talk, you’d definitely make my day… or maybe year.
  11. Hello. Also, you are amazing.
  12. Hi. Also, you are pretty damn rad.
  13. Hey, your photos look amazing. How’d you get so cool?
  14. You had me at It’s a Match.
  15. I tend to wear my heart on my profile. 🙂
  16. Hello, bonjour, aloha, salut! (I wasn’t sure how to say hi, so I tried a bunch.)
  17. Rawr means hello in dinosaur. RAWR!
  18. That awkward moment when you try to message a guy/girl and all you can think of is hello.
  19. Hello. I’m awkward. How about you?
  20. Just saying hi. Because I’m annoying like that.
  21. I’m willing to risk the cooties if you are.
  22. I like how your nose is in the middle of your face. That’s really cute.
  23. Hi, I like hugs. They’re the best.
  24. I will always tell you when you have something in your teeth. That’s just the kind of person I am.
  25. I’d love to talk to you. For reals. No fakesies.
  26. I think I quite fancy you.
  27. You seem like a swell gal/swell fella.
  28. You seem super duper.
  29. Double thumbs up to you.
  30. You seem pretty amazing. What’s an amazing person like you been up to lately?
  31. You (yes, you) are the person I want to talk to. What’s up?
  32. I don’t flirt, but I will totally seduce you with my awkwardness. Is it working yet?
  33. I’m looking for someone I can be a complete nerd with. You interested?
  34. I like it when a guy/girl  talks nerdy to me. What’s your dork interest?
  35. You deserve a whole sheet of gold stars.
  36. The truth? I like you a lot. And I don’t even know you yet. I just have an idea.
  37. Hello amazingness.
  38. You make me smile. That is all.
  39. You seem pretty cool. And that’s all I have to say about that.
  40. I was more excited to see your profile photo than pizza. And I really like pizza.
  41. I bet my dog would like you.
  42. I bet my cat would like you.
  43. I bet my friends would like you.
  44. You know, you look pretty cool. I could spend a lot of time talking to someone like you.
  45. Oh man, when that It’s a Match message came up I felt butterflies.
  46. I’ve never been so happy to get a match before. How are you?
  47. I was hoping we’d match.
  48. I was hoping you’d say yes.
  49. Hey there, good looking. Whatcha got cooking?
  50. Well, hello hello hello.
  51. Hi! Hi! Hi! It’s me! Over here! Hi!

Tinder Openers: Random Questions 

  1. That’s a cool photo. Where was it taken?
  2. You have a cool collection of photos.
  3. I like your photos. Looks like you do a lot!
  4. Looks like you like to stay busy. What have you been up to lately?
  5. So what’s your thing? You know the thing you could talk about for hours?
  6. What do you do on the weekends?
  7. What kinds of things do you like to do for fun?
  8. What’s a typical day for you like?
  9. How would you describe your perfect day?
  10. If you could live anywhere, where would it be?
  11. What do you like to do when you go out?
  12. What type of stuff do you do in your spare time?
  13. If you could be a character in any movie, who would you be?
  14. What actor/actress would play you in the movie of your life?
  15. What actor/actress would be the voiceover for your dog in a movie?
  16. What’s your favorite book?
  17. What book are you reading now?
  18. Do you read one book at a time or do you mix it up?
  19. What’s on your nightstand?
  20. What’s one thing I should know about you that’s not on your profile?
  21. What’s your favorite sports team?
  22. How did you pick your display name?
  23. What’s one saying you try to live by?
  24. Do you have any tattoos? If you got one what would you get?
  25. Are you close to your family?
  26. If you could choose a superpower what would it be?
  27. What’s the nerdiest thing you’re willing to admit?
  28. What are you most likely to stay up all night talking about?
  29. I love hearing other people’s stories. Do you have a good one to tell?
  30. When you were a kid, what did you want to be when you grew up?
  31. Ever get in trouble as a kid?
  32. What’s one city you want to travel to?
  33. What’s your favorite band?
  34. What’s your favorite movie?
  35. What’s your favorite song?
  36. What’s one great book you’ve recently read?
  37. Are you an adventurous person?
  38. Would you consider yourself shy?
  39. Are you introverted or extroverted?
  40. What’s your favorite cocktail?
  41. What’s your favorite restaurant?
  42. Would you describe yourself as a romantic person?
  43. Yes or no: Do you like to dance?
  44. Yes or no: Do you believe in love at first sight?
  45. Yes or no: Are you romantic?
  46. Do you have any pets?
  47. Do you have any nicknames?
  48. Ever have a nickname as a kid?
  49. Where did you grow up?
  50. Are you an outgoing person or are you on the shy side?
  51. Do you like working out?
  52. What’s your favorite TV show?
  53. What’s the last crazy thing you did?
  54. When was the last time you stayed up all night?
  55. Are you an outdoorsy person?
  56. Do you play any sports?
  57. What’s one thing you’d bring with you to a deserted iisland?
  58. What’s the fondest memory you have?
  59. What’s your favorite place in the whole world?
  60. Tell me one random fact about yourself.
  61. If you had three wishes from a genie, what would you wish for?
  62. If you could redo a year of your life over again, what year would it be?

Megan Murray

Editor-in-Chief of The Date Mix

Megan Murray is the Editor-in-Chief of The Date Mix and works at the online dating site and app Zoosk, that has over 40 million members worldwide. She splits her time between writing for The Date Mix and working on the Zoosk product, which gives her behind-the-scenes knowledge about the world of online dating.

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