Falling in love is a special thing, a feeling that is so incredible to experience. It feels brand new, it fills you up, it keeps you awake, it gives you proverbial butterflies. Everyone falls in love differently, and acts differently when they’re in love, but how do you really know when a man is falling in love with you?
You can be very aware of how you act when you’re falling in love, but it can be hard to figure out if it’s reciprocated. To help you out, here are a few signs that will help you figure it out for sure.
1. He lets you see the “real” him
When you notice that your man is acting authentic, like the real him, it’s a great sign that he’s falling in love with you. But what does being authentic mean? As you’re getting to know someone, it can be tempting to hide who you really are, even if it’s not in a manipulative manner. If he slowly lets that go and lets you see him and his real emotions, it’s a really good sign that he’s starting to fall for you.
If he’s just as comfortable coming to hang out with you in sweats as he is all dressed up, he may be falling in love. If he lets his voice crack while talking about some emotional part of his childhood, he may be falling in love. If he talks to you about his true passions, the deepest parts of him, he may be falling in love with you.
2. Your sex life takes a turn.
Having sex with someone new is really fun and probably offers up a sense of adventure for both of you. Sex when you’re new to one another is completely different than sex when you’re in love. If you notice a few things start to shift in your sex life—in a positive way—chances are, he’s falling in love.
An even greater sign is when you start to sleep over at one another’s places without anything physical happening. If he just wants to come over to fall asleep while holding you, well, he’s feeling something more than physical attraction.
He wants you to meet his friends.
Depending on how you two met in the first place, there’s a chance you know some of his friends already. But what about his fringe friends, or his best friend who is visiting this weekend from Chicago? When he’s eager to introduce you to everyone in his life, from his best and oldest friends to his casual friendships with his colleagues, there’s a really good chance he’s ready to say, “I love you.”
He wants you to meet the fam.
Arguably more important, when he wants you to meet his family, he’s certainly feeling the love. Meeting the parents, regardless of what age you are, is a huge step. When he wants you to get to know his parents, sister, grandparents, brother, favorite uncle, and more, he loves you.
He’s planning trips.
Thinking about the future and including you in that? A super solid sign that he’s falling in love with you. It’s easy to plan something in the future without your new partner. If you’re just fooling around, there’s no need to include you in his future plans to attend his university’s reunion or on that trip to Iceland in the beginning of next year. But if he wants you to be there and is excited to include you—and even more so—he’s planning trips for just the two of you, he’s in love. Talking about the future, planning it together, those things are huge.
He’s constantly there for you.
Need someone to pick you up from work because the snow is falling too heavy? Need help moving? Need someone to pick your cat up from the vet because you had an unexpected meeting run too late? If your man is always offering to do things for you, it’s because he wants to make your life easier, most likely because he’s in love with you.
He wants to make you happy
And isn’t that the best thing? To have someone who wants to make you happy is such a special thing. If he’s constantly trying to put that smile on your face, to make your day that much better, chances are he’s falling in love with you.
And do you love him back? Do you look forward to those text messages saying good morning or good night? Is your day just that much better when he’s in it? You may very well be in love too. Look for these signs and when in doubt, just tell him how you feel. You may be pleasantly surprised at his response.