25 Solid Tinder First Messages to Start a Conversation

A girl responding to a Tinder first message and laughing on her couch at home.

You saw someone on Tinder, swiped right, and got that satisfying, “It’s a Match!” screen. Woohoo! But not so fast. Now comes the hard part—sending the first message.

There are a couple of ways you can approach starting a conversation on Tinder. You can try a light-hearted question, a funny pick-up line, a flirty compliment, or a simple hello. The key is choosing an Tinder first message that matches your personality and also reflects the tone of the person’s profile who you matched with.

If you’re looking for some good ways to start a convo without thinking about it too hard, here are 30 of our best Tinder first message tactics and examples you can try out:

Tinder First Message #1: Photo Compliment & Question
Does your match have a picture of a sunset, a hike, a beautiful piece of scenery, a party, Halloween costume, a funny face, or something else notable? Great! This makes it easy. Simply say the photo is cool or make a comment about it, then ask a question.

First Message Examples:

Love your hiking photo. Where was that taken? 
Epic sunset shot. Was that a pretty amazing day?
You make a great cat. What were some of your other Halloween costumes? 
Cute pup! Is he/she yours? 
Saw your guitar pic. Have you played for a while? 

Tinder First Message #2: Casual Hello & Simple Question
Ok, so sometimes your Tinder match may be attractive and someone you’re into, but they won’t have a ton in their profile to go on. In that case, it’s good to go with a casual hello and a simple question to start things off.

First Message Examples:
Happy DayoftheWeek. How are things going with you today?
Hey, how’s your day going so far? 
Hey! How’s the day treating you? 
Hi, how’s it going? Doing anything fun this week? 

Tinder First Message #3: Slightly Flirty
Hey, it’s Tinder so it’s great to be flirty, but unless your match’s profile has flirty or sexually charged language in it, it’s even better to only be slightly flirty. Give them a little tease that makes them want more.

First Message Examples:
Cute smile. What makes it come out the most? 
You look like you know how to have a good time. Had any adventures lately? 
I was hoping we would match. 🙂 Looks like you enjoy a lot of the things I do. 
Like your profile pic. Makes me think you know what you’re about. 
Hey! Funny meeting you on here. 

Tinder First Message #4: Question About Basic Profile Info. 
Even if your Tinder match hasn’t added much to their profile, you can always find an opening by commenting on their job, location, or school. They’re simple but give you more to go on.

First Message Examples:
Your job sounds super interesting. What exactly does a JobName do?
Hey! Saw you went to SchoolName. I had a bunch of friends who went there. What year?
You work at CompanyName. Cool! Do you like it?
I’ve heard good things about CompanyName. How do you like working there?

Hey there! Are you new to the area of have you lived here a while?

Tinder First Message #5: Random Question/Comment
If the person you matched with has some funny photos or looks like they have more of a sense of humor, sending something a little more random and silly can be a good way to get their attention.

First Message Examples:
What’s your favorite Bill Murray movie? 
I’m asking around: Where can you get the best guacamole in town? 
Rhode Island is neither a road nor an island. I think we should discuss don’t you? 
So I just finished watching Citizen Kane and I don’t get it. All that for a sled? 
I like songs with people’s names in them or lalalas. Know any good ones? 

Starting a conversation can be hard in any situation. On Tinder, the key is not to take it too seriously or try too hard. Chances are that you won’t hear from a lot of people you match with ever again. And it’s not you, it’s just how the app works. So put yourself out there, try some different messages, and see what works for you.

Megan Murray

Editor-in-Chief of The Date Mix

Megan Murray is the Editor-in-Chief of The Date Mix and works at the online dating site and app Zoosk, that has over 40 million members worldwide. She splits her time between writing for The Date Mix and working on the Zoosk product, which gives her behind-the-scenes knowledge about the world of online dating.

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