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How To Start A Conversation On Bumble (Tips From A Guy)

A woman who was wondering how to start a conversation on Bumble, texting a guy to ask him a question about his profile while sitting on her couch.

Learning how to start a conversation on Bumble isn’t always easy – but it’s doable. Over the last few years, Bumble has become increasingly popular. Unfortunately, this doesn’t make knowing what to say any easier, especially when all you’ve got to go off of are a few photos and a short bio.

Chatting online can be tricky to master, so don’t worry if you’re not sure where to start. That’s why we’re here to help! Below, we’ve put together some tips and tricks on how to start a conversation on Bumble. Consider these tips and you’ll be firing off messages like a pro in no time!

How to Start a Conversation on Bumble – The Right Way

Say more than “hey”

My friends often complain that their online dating matches only say “hey” to start a conversation. They’ll have a flurry of matches and 90% of them reach out with those three letters. No punctuation anywhere to be seen. While online dating today has given us access to many people we wouldn’t have met otherwise, it also means we can be choosy.

In order to get someone’s attention, you need to stand out from the crowd. Only saying “hey” doesn’t cut it anymore. Adding an exclamation point, a “how are you,” or even swapping in a “howdy” are all better options. At the very least, switch up this basic greeting for something with a little more character.

Ask a question

Questions are great for starting conversations for a few reasons. First, it shows that you’re eager to get to know someone and you put some thought in before reaching out. Second, you’re giving the other person a conversational jumping-off point. as well as revealing some insight into your interests and personality.

The goals in an online dating conversation are to get a feel for each other’s personalities and find common ground. You’re winning if you’re stimulating the conversation. Question openers are a great way to do just that.

Be relevant

When you match with someone, you want to create a connection. The only information you have is what’s written in their profile, so start there. If they have a laundry list of favorite vacation spots, start by chatting about your favorite. If they have a photo where they’re snowboarding down a mountain, spark up a conversation about active sports.

When you make a relevant remark, it shows that you’re being present and paying attention to the way they represented themselves. At the very least, you’re showing candid interest in them, which is always a good thing.

Be funny

Everybody likes a good laugh. If you have a quip, joke, to memorable opening line related to something in your match’s profile, get it out there. If you can make them laugh or snicker over text, you’ve won the first battle, although it’s not always easy.

Keep it lighthearted

Let’s talk about how to approach the first conversation. It’s best to keep it light for now. You’re just getting to know them. Don’t dig super deep into family history, political beliefs, or religion very early, and don’t shut down the other person when you’re chatting because they said something you disagree with.

Imagine this a conversation you might have with a friend of a friend. You want to get to know them and make them feel good, but you’re not exactly ready to air any deep dark secrets or challenge their beliefs.

Type in small bursts

This is a good way to give your messages a sense of velocity. Text messages, especially from someone you’re attracted to, are like presents. Texting in bursts is like giving your match two or three presents each time you reach out. Also, it gives the communication a snappy playful feel.

Take a breath and relax

Before you send your message, take a deep breath. No matter how attractive the person is that you’re about to message, you don’t know them. Because of their semi-anonymity, dating apps have low accountability.

People don’t always message back. Some people swipe right on everyone with no intention of talking. There’s a possibility that someone you’re interested in won’t message you back, so don’t fantasize about how things will end up. Take a deep breath and keep it casual.

Don’t make rejection mean anything

Many people start feeling anxious about sending a message, because they fear rejection. Remember: rejection is okay. First of all, just because they didn’t respond doesn’t mean they rejected you. Many people never respond on dating apps.

Second, if they do reject you, know that this is part of the process. Everyone faces rejection sooner or later, but equating rejection with personal failure is how you lose the game. You’re looking for something that works for you and most people (however beautiful they may be) are not that. If it doesn’t pan out, you can always move on to the next one.

Learning how to start a conversation on Bumble can be nerve-racking, intimidating, or just downright hard. But, like anything else, it’s a skill that can be learned. You just have to get out there and give it a shot.

Things won’t always go the way you want them to, but that’s okay. Having trouble? Take a break and come back. If you’re able to take the pressure off, it can be fun. So take a breath, put your thumbs to work, and send those messages.

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