A lot changes when you’re dating over 50, but the changes aren’t always what you’d expect. True, it’s a little bit harder to meet people, but men and women over 50 are still meeting in bars, at parties, and online; getting set up by friends and family; and bumping into each other in grocery stores and coffee shops. What changes is the people. When you’re a woman over 50, the men you meet have had more experiences with relationships (both good and bad) and what they’re looking for is different from what most 30-somethings want.
We make assumptions about what men in their 50s want in a woman (and what all men want for that matter) but are they really that different from men in their 30s and 40s? To help find the answers we turned to the popular online dating site Zoosk. They data-mined 656,356 profiles to see what words men in their 30s, 40s, and 50s mention most often when describing what they’re looking for in another person.
And it shouldn’t come as too much of a surprise that while some things change as we get older, other things stay the same.
Top Characteristics Men Want In a Woman
|nice||loving||sense of humor|
|sense of humor||kind||happy|
|smile||sense of humor||caring|
|down to earth||positive||active|
|family||easy going||down to earth|
|to have fun||beautiful||open minded|
Here are some key takeaways…
Men of all ages want a fun, honest women
The most popular characteristic for all men of all ages is fun. And the second most popular characteristic for all men of all ages is honest. Across the board, men are looking for honest women they can have a good time with.
Men over 50 are more relationship-minded
Unlike their younger counterparts, men over 50 are more likely to say they’re looking for a relationship. In fact, it’s the third most popular term they mention. Men in their 40s do mention looking for a relationship, but other characteristics are more important. And men in their 30s don’t mention it much at all.
A loving partner becomes more important as you get older
Another interesting finding is that men of all ages are interested in finding a loving partner but how important it is becomes more important with age. Loving is the 11th most popular characteristic for men in their 30s, the 6th for men in their 40s, and 5th for men over 50.
Older guys have learned to value intelligent women
Similar to loving, older men put more emphasis on a woman’s intelligence than younger men. For men over 40 intelligence is the 16th most popular characteristic, while for men over 50 it jumps to the 13th most popular trait. Interestingly enough, men in their 30s don’t mention intelligence as often but instead use the word smart when describing the women they’re looking for.
All men love a good sense of humor
Perhaps this goes along with being fun, but men of all ages mention humor or a sense of humor as a top trait. And women who know how to have a good laugh are popular too.
Men over 50 are looking for romance
Unlike men in their 30s and 40s, one word that keeps popping up for men over 50 is romantic. Perhaps the older we get, the more we value love and romance over finding someone we can just have a good time with.
Older men still want someone active
Men over 50 also mentioned they were into someone active much more often than men in their 40s and 30s. This is great news for women who aren’t interested in slowing down as they get older.
After looking into what men in their 30s, 40s, and 50s are looking for a few things become obvious—for the most part, men of all ages want an honest, caring person who they can also have a great time and laugh with. (And that shouldn’t be too surprising, since it’s what a lot of people want in a partner.) However, there are a few things that become more important as they get older. Men over 50 are looking for romance, someone who’s loving, a partner they can be active with, and a woman with intelligence.
They say as we get older we don’t change, we just become more clearly ourselves. As you look for your special someone over 50, keep in mind that he’s really not that different from the younger men who are out there, or the younger man he once was. He’s simply a little older, a little wiser and yes, he’s looking for someone to be a little romantic with too.