We all know about red flags. But what about yellow flags?  They’re signs that something could be fishy, but could also just be a wrong place at the wrong time type of situation. A yellow flags are warnings, but not dealbreakers in and of themselves. They require a look at the big picture to figure out if they’re really a reason for alarm, but they should be looked at. These are some of the most common ones that might warrant a conversation.

Yellow Flags  

  1. They were previously married. (Again, not a complete dealbreaker, but how you found out also matters. Did they tell you or did find out over social media?) 
  2. They’ve never been in a committed relationship. (Again, maybe okay, but this is probably something you should explore a bit before you commit.) 
  3. They’re unemployed. (Have they always been unemployed? Are they truly in between jobs, are they relying on family money, or are they a little short on ambition?) 
  4. They’ve been fired…a few times. (This one probably requires a conversation. Is it an attitude thing? A money laundering thing? A sexual harassment thing?) 
  5. They don’t have close friends. (Maybe fine! Maybe weird.) 
  6. They have way too many friends. (How are can they be close to this many people?) 
  7. They come home at all hours of the night. (Maybe it’s their work schedule!) 
  8. They take forever to respond to texts. (Could be fine, but communication is key in any relationship. So where are they all the time?) 
  9. They don’t always respond to your texts, period. (Could be fine, could be something to bring up.) 
  10. They don’t remember what you tell them. (Rude, and potentially concerning.) 
  11. They forget plans you’ve made. (Prioritizing is important, but also maybe not a total dealbreaker.) 
  12. You know nothing about their family. (What’s going on there?) 
  13. They say unsavory things about their ex(es). (Can’t trust it, but maybe you can?) 
  14. They don’t celebrate you. (Gifts aren’t everything, but if they don’t acknowledge your birthday, get you a card, buy you flowers sometimes…question that.) 
  15. You bicker a lot. (Maybe it ignites passion in each other, but maybe it’s a sign of something unhealthy.) 

Yellow flags may look slightly different for everyone, but these are just a handful of examples that really might make you stop and consider what’s going on between you and your partner. These are simply examples of a few things that are bothersome — if your relationship gives you pause over more than a few of these, it may be time to take a step back or have an honest conversation and make a choice that will ultimately be best for you.

Jessica Tholmer

Freelance Writer

Jess Tholmer has been writing on the internet for what feels like most of her life. After studying English Literature in school, she has leaned into her degree and is a full-time content writer, social media manager, and freelance contributor to websites like HelloGiggles.com. You can find her @tholmz on Twitter and Instagram!