Valentine’s Day 2020 is a year behind us but in terms of significant changes to our world, it may as well be a decade. Last February 14th was business as usual for most singles as COVID was about a month away from putting a stranglehold on all our lives.
As we approach Valentine’s Day 2021, although many of us are still living a somewhat restrictive life, it doesn’t mean we have to stop trying to be the best, most loving, happiest person we can be.
If you’re single and wondering what to do on Valentine’s Day 2021, I’m here to offer my two cents on what to do to still have a loved up kinda day. I want to help get you in the right mindset and arm yourself with a few action-steps not only to make February 14th a happy one but also a day that will launch you into 2021 with an open and positive outlook!
Valentine’s Day 2021: A Guide to Making it Goodie
- Avoid Social Media
Ok, before you call me a crazy person, hear me out. One of the biggest problems with social media as a society is that it can increase FOMO and feelings of loneliness, disappointment, and inadequacy. You may think you’re just checking in on family and friends, but when you see others experiencing Valentine’s Day in a way that makes you wish you had, the truth of the matter is that it can negatively impact your mood.
Your goal this year is to find a way to maximize happiness and minimize any chance of feeling the blues. Making a plan to avoid going on social media for at least 24 hours in or around February 14th can help do just that.
- Write Yourself a Card
I know that giving yourself a card for Valentine’s Day may seem uninspiring, but I’m not talking about forcing yourself to buy a card at the grocery store and giving it to yourself (although if that makes you happy please do).
What I suggest is getting some beautiful stationery and writing down all the good things you have done in the past year, the things you like most about yourself and what brings you joy.
Maybe you’ve overcome some incredible personal obstacles in the past year that you’re proud of or maybe you’ve tried some new activities and made some unexpected friends that excite you. Whatever it is, focus on the positive things and the things that make you smile and enjoy recognizing the accomplishment in that.
- Dedicate the Whole Day to Yourself
Valentine’s Day 2021 is on a Sunday this year so for many of you, that means it could be a good day not to work and only focus on yourself. Your goal starting now is to sit down and start planning what your perfect day might look like.
Maybe begin by making a list of your favorite activities or guilty pleasures. Then pick one or two things from that list and make them happen. It could be ordering in your favorite take out or candlelit yoga, taking a doubly-long bubble bath with a book, or watching a rom-com marathon.
Think about what will feel good for you – do you want to dress up and put on some red lipstick for a zoom with your gal pals or is it a day of solitude in your pj’s? Whatever you choose remember it is YOUR day and you can be as selfish as you want to be, just make sure to make an actual plan for yourself for the day!
- Do Something Nice for Someone
As much as this is a perfect ‘me day’, make sure to take a moment to connect with the other important people in your life too. It’s true, you may not be in that forever relationship yet, but that doesn’t mean you can’t tap into that special sharing and giving part of you.
Family and friends have never been more important than right now so do something nice on this day for those special people in your support system. This can be sending them a simple handmade card or flowers or even just a nice text or call wishing them the very best Valentine’s Day possible and thanking them for being in your life.
- Buy Yourself a Special Gift
Like many people around the world, you have had a very trying year and this little gift is a way to thank yourself for being you and continuing to push forward in challenging times.
The gift can be practical or a splurge, but the intent is to make the purchase a conscious effort to give something from you to you… no strings attached. Buy yourself 100 roses or an air fryer – whatever floats your boat and will make your heart smile!
- Plan Your Valentine’s Day 2022
New Year’s is usually the time for resolutions, but if you want the next Valentine’s Day to be the one you share with that special someone you have to start working towards making it happen. And when I say work, I do mean work.
When I was a struggling single in my early 30s I knew I had to change things up. I flipped the switch and made it a goal to find the man of my dreams. I truly treated this goal as a job, not as some idyllic dream.
My action steps included reading self-improvement and relationship-building books, as well as putting myself out there on dating sites and single’s events. Within one year of that choice, I met the man of my dreams. We’ve been married for almost a decade now. This can be you too if you want to make it happen enough to take active steps in that direction.
Dating, especially on Valentine’s Day 2021, may look different to year’s past, but if you prepare and plan what would make you feel good, you can enjoy celebrating YOU and the special people in your life! Remember that there are many different kinds of love and many different kinds of ways to celebrate that! This year, be your own great love and plan your perfect kinda day! You deserve it!
If you feel like you could benefit from some more support reach out to Amie here. Amie Leadingham is a Master Certified Relationship Coach. Her greatest accomplishments come from seeing her clients find lasting love, and she offers a 30 minute Free Relationship Readiness Review here. Amie has been named one of LA’s “Best Dating Coaches” by DatingAdvice and featured in a variety of media outlets including the CBS Network, Fox 5 News, People Entertainment Weekly Channel, HelloGiggles and Martha Stewart Weddings. Grab her free eBook, 5 Dating Traps Keeping You Single here.