Using Tinder For Couples: Is It Any Good?

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Have you ever wondered “Is Tinder for couples?” If you have, you’re not alone.

If you’re a Tinder user, then you might have come across an account labeled as a single woman that’s actually owned by a couple. 

More often than not, that couple is looking for a threesome. And, more often than not, you’re a little tired of that old rouse. 

Online dating for couples is still taboo among some social circles, so it’s hard to know what the best practices are.

For example, are couples actually allowed on Tinder? If they aren’t, what platform should they be using instead? And is it unfair to present as a woman on Tinder when you’re really a couple? 

We’ve broken down everything you need to know about Tinder for couples.

So, Is Tinder for Couples?

Some dating apps allow users to make dual accounts or to link two individual accounts to each other to show that you’re a couple. However, Tinder only permits single-user accounts.

This encourages couples to create one account so they can still use the app.

So no, Tinder’s intended use is not to help couples find an additional partner. 

But if it’s not allowed, how can a couple make an account?

Tinder is popular. It has a high number of bisexual female users who’re seeking other women. 

To access this pool of matches, many couples create one female account together with settings saying that they’re looking for other women. 

However, not being clear on a dating app is never a good idea.

There’s a good chance this will anger some of, if not many of, your matches. Why? Because they think they’re connecting with another woman, when in fact they’ve matched a couple.

This behavior reinforces the belief that since bisexual women are interested in both genders, they want to be with them at the same time.

This stereotype can hurt bi women because it delegitimizes their sexuality. 

Also, bending the rules like this isn’t the best etiquette for Tinder.

What is unicorn hunting? 

Unicorn hunting is where a heterosexual couple seeks a bisexual woman to join their relationship. It’s frowned upon by many in the bisexual community.

Some people are ok with being labeled a unicorn, but many others dislike being cast as one simply because of their sexual preferences.

But the reality is, whether you’re a bi woman looking for a quick threesome or a couple to hook up with regularly, you’re likely toeing the line between partner and unicorn. 

Unicorns can often end up with little autonomy. 

They’re expected to come and go at a couple’s whim and to not develop any feelings for the couple involved. Basically, if a unicorn becomes an inconvenience, it’s time for her to go.

Maintaining this happy-go-lucky attitude can become challenging if a unicorn spends more and more time with a particular couple.

Is unicorn hunting common?

Most heterosexual couples on Tinder are unicorn hunting. 

That means that they’re not looking for a full-fledged partner, but rather someone to fulfill some kind of fantasy. 

And understandably, most so-called unicorns aren’t thrilled to be seen as some two-dimensional character in a couple’s erotica story forever.

So when they’re continuously matching couples on Tinder, when they’re hoping to match single women, it’s frustrating.

So what’s a better dating app for couples?

If you’re a couple on Tinder looking for a third, you might be looking in the wrong place. 

There are plenty of apps that cater to couples searching for an additional partner that are better, and more flexible, than Tinder. 

Here are some of our favorites.

Feeld is widely known as Tinder for Threesomes. 

It allows for couple profiles and individual profiles. This means that from the start, the person swiping on you knows who you are and what you want.

Even better? You won’t show up to them if you’re not what they’re looking for. 

This is more ethical and leads to fewer complications. 

OkCupid has also become a key player in polyamorous dating

It lets you find people for a threesome, but it also helps you find more long-term thirds as well. 

After all, not everyone who’s looking for a third is looking for a threesome.

Many couples are looking to become a throuple. This is where the third has equal footing in the relationship. 

Fantasy Match is yet another alternative to Tinder for couples. 

It prides itself on being a safe space where anyone can discuss sexual desires and curiosities. 

Today’s world is full of dating apps that cater to every preference imaginable. 

This variety means that there are countless apps that couples can use to find a third partner and in our opinion, Tinder isn’t the best option.

We recommend using a dating app for its intended use. That way everyone is on the same page and you three can concentrate on having fun. 

Jacqueline Gualtieri

Freelance Writer

Jacqueline Gualtieri is a writer and blogger whose best friend once told her to quit her job and become a couples and sex therapist. Since she’d miss writing too much, she figured writing for The Date Mix would be the next best thing.

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