11 Things to Talk About on a First Date

Attractive couple in a cafe coming up with things to talk about on a first date

From figuring out what to wear to the best date spot, first dates can definitely be sweat-inducing. Factor in worrying about things to talk about on a first date, and you’re not to be blamed for feeling anxious!

However, let’s not forget that first dates should also be exciting and interesting. After all, you’re getting to know someone new (who you also think is cute). So when you have the right attitude, along with a list of the best things to talk about on a first date, your anxiety levels have no choice but take a back seat. Wondering what those ‘best things’ are? Well, basically they’re simple yet insightful questions that help you to connect with your date without coming across as a police interrogator.

Here’re 11 Things to Talk About on a First Date 

  • Where’s home?

So simple yet so essential. It helps you understand the background of your date and gives you insight on how they grew up and where they see as home now. Speaking about home also naturally leads to other topics, such as family, school and culture. 

  •  Who are you closest to in your family?

This question will tell you information about their family background, their upbringing, and could be a great way to establish intimacy.  

  • If you could travel anywhere, where would you go?

Depending on the answer, you’ve got yourself a hermit or someone who’s a wild adventurer a la Jacques Cousteau, or someone right dab in the middle. It will tell you a lot about them, and perhaps you discover you both have the same destination on your wanderlust list!  

  • What’s your favorite TV show right now?

Pretty standard question but also equally important. Are they into sci-fi? Do they shun Schitt’s Creek? Do they only watch sports? You’ll get an instant insight into how your interests match and whether or not Netflix and Chill will actually be a thing between you. 

  • What is your favorite way to spend a weekend?

Are they a weekend warrior or are they a Lazy Sunday devotee? Knowing how they like to spend their free time will give you a better sense of their interests and whether or not your weekends will mesh or not. 

  • What’s the scariest thing you’ve ever done?

Again, this is a great question to help you better understand who this person is. Does giving a speech in front of five people give them intense anxiety or did they jump out of an airplane on their last birthday?  

  • What are your favorite hobbies?

Hobbies reflect someone’s values, as well as their level of intensity. As in, are they a knitter or are they a rock climber? There’s a big difference between the two and it helps to know where you fit in with that. Remember to keep an open mind though – there are many different ways of establishing a connection beyond hobbies.  

  • What’s your motto in life?

Remember: a first date is about figuring out whether you’re compatible or not. This question helps gauge your compatibility on values to determine whether or not there’s a possible future between you two. Your perspectives don’t need to be exactly the same, but it does help to agree with each other’s values.  

  • Tell me about your friends? 

Who you spend your time with says a lot about you. Also, it’s important to know whether your date has a close network of friends or acquaintances or is generally a loner. If things move along with your date, you’ll eventually meet their friends at some point. It gives you a view into their social style – social butterfly or coach king- and how that fits into your lifestyle.   

  • What are you really passionate about in life?

If you’re someone who’s passionate about life, then you need someone who’s equally passionate. Plus, knowing what someone is most devoted to in life will tell you a lot about that person as well as where they spend most of their energy. Do your passions and energy levels sync up? 

  • What’s the funniest thing you’ve ever heard? 

A sense of humor is key in a relationship. If you can’t laugh and flirt and make each other laugh now, then that’s probably going to be a red flag for your general compatibility. Friendly banter and a similar sense of humor is a good sign that there might be potential for a second date.

Remember: a first date is all about having fun while also getting to know another person and test out whether or not you could be a good fit. Get curious about your date, and no matter what, enjoy learning about someone new. Avoid sticking to a script but if you draw a blank, use these things to talk about on a first date to spark up the convo and test out the compatibility! 

Brianne Hogan

Freelance Writer

Brianne is a Canadian freelance writer who’s been writing about dating and relationships longer than any of her relationships. She applies a “do what I say, not do what I do” approach to her articles, and believes you can find Your Person mostly when you aren’t looking. So enjoy your life, and eat lots of cheese (at least that’s her motto). Her byline’s been featured on Thrillist, The Huffington Post, HelloGiggles, Elle Canada, Flare, Awesomeness TV, among others.

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