You’ve finished unpacking and are settling into your new city. But, there’s just one part of your life that’s left unsettled—your love life. Dating can be difficult after moving to a new city, especially when you’re gay, lesbian, or happen to fall anywhere under the broad LGBT spectrum.
Gay-friendly city dynamics can vary significantly from city to city, and LGBT hangouts can be hard to predict. There’s also the added difficulty in moving from a large city to a small town. It’s easy to find yourself doubting the existence of gay-friendly venues in a town with a single main street, 1.5 grocery stores, and a row of tiny, rundown gas stations.
Don’t stress! There are LGBT singles and safe places to meet them everywhere. Here are 5 tips for LGBT dating in a new city:
Explore the City
Explore your new home. Drive around and see the sights. See what entertainment venues are especially gay friendly. Check the web and local newspaper to find local LGBT events and/or gatherings. If you have friends in the area, ask them if they know of any.
Be Open to New Places
Oftentimes, you’ll have to do a bit of research to find LGBT-friendly venues and events, especially in smaller towns. You may even have to drive a bit to reach those locations. Ask other LGBT locals which places they recommend.
Sometimes, you may need to broaden your search to unique places. Bookstores, clubs, coffee shops, libraries, academic centers, and local events like farmer’s markets and craft fairs can be great places to meet LGBT singles.
Remember Online Options
Online LGBT communities, forums, social media platforms, and dating sites can be particularly useful when it comes to meeting local singles. Reach out to others who share your interests and hobbies.
While meeting people both online and in person, always prioritize your safety. Pick a public place to meet someone for the first time. If you’re not sure about the place your partner suggested, feel free to suggest a place where you’ll feel most comfortable.
Get Yourself Out There
Finally, an obvious tip,but one that’s paramount to your LGBT dating success. You’ll never know what—or who—is out there unless you make yourself available and put one foot forward and take it one step at a time. Meet people. Explore your options. Don’t hesitate to make the first move. The love of your life could be waiting around that next bend—or in that tiny coffee shop you may have otherwise ignored.