Megan and Harry after announcing their engagement.

It’s official, Megan Markle and Prince Harry are engaged and off the dating market. And, despite your feelings of goodwill for the happy couple, I know many of you are probably thinking something similar to what Charlotte from Sex and the City famously stated… “I’ve been dating since I was 15. I’m exhausted. Where is he?” Don’t worry, your prince is out there. But until you find him, take inspiration from Megan and Harry’s relationship to learn a few things about how to grow and nurture a relationship over time.

Wondering how they made it work? Here are four things you can do to add value to your relationships:

1. Be open and honest from the beginning
When Megan Markle and Prince Harry met on their first date, they discussed what they were passionate about—everything from philanthropy, politics, and favorite foods. Don’t be scared to talk about what you’re interested in or what you’re passionate about. Push the small talk to the side and make your connection stronger with real, deeper conversations from the very beginning.

2. Invest time in the relationship.
Megan and Prince Harry were in two different time zones and 45 hours apart. That means they had to jet set across the world to see each other. Communication is important in any relationship, so make sure you put in the extra effort and make time for your significant other. You don’t have to fly across the world for someone but you do have to be there for them.

3. Stay positive when things are out of your control.
When you’re in a long-distance relationship like Megan and Prince Harry, it’s easy to get disappointed and feel like you’re not getting closer or things aren’t moving forward. Don’t let those thoughts get to you. Maybe you’re not dealing with a long-distance relationship, but at some point every relationship has it’s hiccups. Maybe your work schedules won’t line up, or your friends won’t get along. If you’re feeling a secure connection, go after what you want and know that you’re adding value to each other’s lives, even if it takes time for things to get serious.

4. Don’t give up on love.
It can be scary at times, but it’s ok to fall in love. Say this right now with me, “I’m looking for love. Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can’t-live-without-each-other love.” Breakdown your walls and savor the moments with your significant other.

Take a look at Megan and Prince Harry’s example and remember that the heart wants what it wants. All you have to do is follow it!

Joe Palermo

Writer and Dating Expert

Joe is a writer and dating expert based in San Francisco, California.