Ah, second dates. They’re arguably even more important than first dates. While first dates are all about making first impressions, second dates are all about making connections. With the awkwardness of a first date out of the way, a second date is when you can really focus on chemistry, compatibility, and enjoying each other’s company.
If you went out with someone, had a nice time, and made plans to see each other again, you might be feeling the pressure to really impress now. But have no fear—the good news is, you already had a great first date and they agreed to see you again. Now, all you have to do is be your charming self. If you’re excited to go on a second date (and hoping for a third date), here are some second date tips that will help you have an amazing time.
1. Suggest a second date idea that’s totally different from your first date.
Keeping things exciting with an interesting second date idea will give you new things to talk about. If you went out for drinks on your first date, why not go for a walk or a hike on your second date? If you chatted over dinner the first time around, how about catching a movie? If you’re trying to recapture the magic of a great first date, it might fall flat if you follow the exact same recipe.
2. Flirt a little bit more.
If you’re having a great time on your second date, it’s okay to loosen up a little and be more direct. If you held back on the first date, don’t be afraid to give compliments, shoot flirty looks, and playfully touch your date on the arm. As long as you’re being respectful and reading their body language, the second date is the perfect time to get a little touchy-feely.
3. Be confident…
We know, we know, being confident is easier said than done. But if you’re going on a second date, it means you obviously did something right during the first date. Trust that your date is going out with you because they want to spend time with you and you’ll be just fine.
4. …but don’t be cocky.
Just because you’re on a second date doesn’t mean you can get too comfortable with someone too quickly. It’s still important to be respectful of their boundaries.
5. Use your memory.
Show your new love interest that you were listening to the details they shared during your first date. Ask how her big work meeting went or about his new car. It’s a small gesture that’ll go a long way.
6. Ask new questions.
There are bound to be some “get to know you” details that you didn’t cover during your first date. Your second date is an opportunity to dig into some of the things you may have missed. Where do their parents live? Do they have any siblings? What do they love about their job? You don’t want to make the date feel like an interview, but asking new questions will show that you’re genuinely interested in getting to know them more.
7. See if they’d like to go on a third date.
Is it bold? Yes. But if you’re feeling it, is it appropriate? Absolutely.
Above all else, just relax, have fun, and be yourself. And just think: If it works out, you’ll have a great second date story to tell for years to come.
