More and more sixty something men and women are finding themselves single these days, after divorce, separation, or bereavement. If you’re in your sixties and newly single, don’t worry, because you’re most certainly not alone. And you’re at the beginning of a what can be a very fun time.
To help you out, we put together some fabulous tips for dating when you’re in your sixties, to make sure you’re clued in on what you need to know, how to have fun, and where to meet people.
Here are 10 over 60 dating tips that will help you have an amazing time:
1. Try online dating. (The stigma is gone!)
It’s the 21st century, and everyone is on some kind of online dating platform or app, whether they’re 18 or in their seventies. You might remember a time when people who did this were judged, but there’s no stigma anymore. In fact, it’s one of the best ways to meet someone who’s looking for a serious relationship.
Fill out a profile, add some flattering photos, and start putting yourself out there. You never know who you’ll meet by taking your dating life into your own hands.
2. List out your dating goals.
Why are you looking to date someone right now? What has changed in your life that has made you want the company of someone today? And what are you looking for when it comes to a potential relationship? All of the answers to these questions are likely to be very different than when you were dating twenty or thirty years ago.
It’s important to ask yourself these questions and list out your relationship goals, so that you’re more likely to stick to them. If you’re active in your search, and you stay patient, you’re bound to meet someone who fits what you’re seeking in a partner.
3. Remember that the good ones aren’t all taken.
There was a time when you were taken, but now you’re very much single. Likewise, there are many other men and women who become newly single each day. Every day there are new potential “good ones” added to the pool of people out there looking to date. However, if you’re not out there speaking to new people, you’ll never find one of them. The good ones are definitely not all taken, so go out there and find them!
4. Make friends first.
The best way to ease yourself back into dating is to forget the dating part, and begin by making new friends. Get out of your comfort zone, take up a new hobby, explore a new place, and strike up conversations with new people.
Don’t put any pressure on yourself to be romantically involved with anyone. Spend time doing things that bring you joy, and bring out the best in you, and you’ll find that you end up meeting people who share your interests and passions. Romance often blossoms out of friendship, no matter what age you are.
5. Now, is the right time.
If you’re waiting for “the right time,” I’ve got news for you—there’s no such thing
You might not feel confident right now, you might be scared or feel like you’ll never meet anyone—but that attitude is only putting you at a disadvantage before you’ve even begun.
If you keep friendship as your goal, you’ve got nothing to be afraid of. Who wouldn’t want to spend time with you, grab a coffee, catch a movie, or share a meal, and get to know you better? People do that every single day. And if you don’t click, don’t worry, because there are plenty of other people out there.
6. Be 100% yourself.
Don’t hide who you are, your age, or what you look like. Life is too short to be living a lie. The strongest relationships are the ones built on a trust.
Your age is not an obstacle, unless you believe it is. Just focus on being your fabulous self, and the right people will be naturally drawn towards you.
7. Take your time.
If you’ve recently gotten a divorce or suffered a bereavement, don’t rush back into dating. Take your time, and make sure you’re ready to date again. There’s no exact time for when you’ll feel ready, because we’re all so different.
And when you do begin dating again, don’t rush to commit or label things out of fear you won’t find anybody else. It’s better to enjoy being on your own than settling for a relationship that isn’t truly making you happy.
8. Leave perfection at the door.
It’s also important to realize that no one is perfect, including you. There will be some amazing people out there, who can brighten your life up and bring the best out in you, if you open your heart to them. They won’t be like your previous partner, so it’s important to give them a blank slate.
They might not tick all of the boxes, but if they’re not 6 feet tall, with blue eyes, or a millionaire, is that really a deal breaker?
9. Accept every part of the person you are dating.
Dating in your sixties is a total different kettle of fish because there might be children or grandchildren in the picture, parents with poor health, or someone going through a messy divorce.
There will be other compartments when it comes to both of your lives, and it’s important to go into dating aware of this and willing to look beyond all of these things. If you accept one another for who you are and your current situations, then you’ll be just fine.
10. Stay safe online
Older people are the most vulnerable when it comes to being scammed online and offline, and it’s important to be aware that romance scammers exist and learn how to spot them.
If you follow the advice of the dating platform you’re using, and follow the usual guidelines like not giving out personal information to anyone until you know they’re genuine, scammers can be avoided.
Dating over 60 can be an amazingly fun time—there are a lot of amazing single 60-somethings out there who are looking to meet new people and open to finding love. Enjoy yourself and the people you meet. You never know who you may find.