Why Do You Love Me? Heartfelt Ways to Answer the Question

A woman who's wondering, "Why do you love me?" holding hands by a lake with her partner who's telling her just that.

The thing about us humans is, we can’t quite believe our luck when we find an amazing person, who thinks we’re equally as amazing as they are. We might start to question why they love us, or we might simply be curious about what it is that they love about us.

So when your partner asks you the question, “Why do you love me?” you want to say something that truly expresses how you feel. You want it to come from your heart.

Don’t worry if you’re not great at showing your feelings, or speaking eloquently. Here are some heartfelt ways to answer the question, and show your partner just how much you adore them.

Because I can be 100% myself when I’m with you.
How many times have you changed who you really are, pretended you liked something when you didn’t, agreed with something when your heart didn’t; just to be accepted or liked?

I think we’ve all been there—especially in our school days. And if we don’t develop a strong enough sense of self-confidence and self-worth, we can continue to struggle with this as adults.

The truth is, it’s hard to find someone who you can reveal all of yourself to, and not only be fully accepted, but also be loved for it.

Because you encourage me to be the best version of myself.
It’s on us to wake up each day and be the kind of people that we desire to be, and make ourselves proud. But, when you find a partner who challenges you to go even further, to step up, and to be even greater each day than you were the day before; that’s rare. And it’s beautiful.

We could all do with someone like that in our life.

Because my days are better with you in them.
All of us should feel happy and whole on our own, but when you find your soulmate, you’ll find that happiness just expands. You probably know what I mean.

You’re content and happy when you’re on your own doing your thing or hanging with your friends, but when you’re together, it’s just better. So tell them.

Because we can do nothing together and it’s still amazing.
Most people have plenty of people in their lives they can do things with, or at least, it’s pretty easy to find someone to do things with. But most of us struggle to find someone to do nothing with.

You know, when you’re sitting on the sofa reading a book, and they’re eating a sandwich, and you’re not even talking; but it’s a total breath of fresh air? And, if you both happen to fancy each other too—that’s love right there.

Because you give unconditionally to me, and I never knew what that looked like until I met you.
When you find real love, you’ll understand what it truly means to be selfless—to give unconditionally, without keeping score, or expecting anything in return. Not that you don’t want to receive (it’s great to receive too) but that’s not your motive.

When someone shows you this kind of love, it’s life changing. It shows you the kindness of someone’s heart, and their true nature. It shows you they’re not in it for what they can gain, but for what they can give. That changes the your life, in a wonderful way.

Because you love me for who I am, and my humanness.
None of us are perfect. We all have our own messiness, our own flaws and quirks, and that’s what makes us so beautifully human.

Yet someone still loves us. Someone accepts us for who we are—flaws and all. They don’t try to change us, or fix us. They just love us for who we are today.

Because you make it so damn easy to love you.
If you’re in a relationship where love feels easy (on most days), then you’ve found what most of us are still searching for. When love flows freely from your heart and from theirs, with beauty and with grace—that’s when you know it’s real.

Shani Jay

Bestselling Author and Empowerment Coach

Shani is a bestselling author, empowerment coach for women, and self-love advocate. She is the author of Bloom, The Babe Bible, Glow Getter, and Light Up Your Life; and her writing has been featured on many internationally recognized platforms including The Huffington Post, Thought Catalog, and Teen Vogue.

​In 2016 Shani founded The Glow Getter Tribe – a self-love & kindness movement which helps young girls & women worldwide feel happy, confident and beautiful starting from the inside, out.

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