The Sexting Chat: How To Start It Off And Get It Off

man sitting topless in bed holding a phone having a sexting chat

There’s a fine line between sounding cheesy and sounding sexy when it comes to sexting chat with your partner, but one thing’s for sure, it’s empowering and hot to send naughty messages! They’re great for getting a new sexual relationship started, but also, for those who’ve been together for a while. 

Reminding your partner of the things they make you feel, especially in a naughty way, can really spice up a relationship. Through teasing and story-telling, to downright saying what’s on your mind, sexting with your partner can open up a whole new world of pleasure for you both. There are some searing hot text examples out there, but we have our own to suit your needs! 

Sexting Chat Messages For Any Romantic Relationship

When you start dating someone, you need to take it slow when it comes to sexting. You’ll need to ‘read the room’, so to speak, and make sure this is something your partner is interested in doing. Also, be careful about when you send naughty messages, especially if you’re attaching a photo. There’s not much worse than sending something for the eyes of your lover only, and others catching a glimpse. It’s a simple thing to ask, “Are you okay with me sending you something a little naughty?” Once you get the go-ahead, you can start by dipping your toes into the water with some tamer texts like:

  • I loved seeing you in (whatever they were wearing) last night.
  • Do you think I would look better in a skirt or tight jeans?
  • Did I tell you what I call my boobs?
  • Last night I had the wildest dream…and you were in it!
  • I can’t stop thinking about you, get out of my head!
  • I’m so excited about our date tonight. If you play your cards right, then you’re going to love what I’ve got planned for later.
  • Tonight I want to slowly kiss my way from your lips down…the only question is how far down will I go?

For those who are married, or in a long-term relationship already, but craving more passion, sexting chat is a fun way to reignite the feelings you had in the beginning, or just build on what you have already. At this point in your relationship, you know what your partner would like to hear, and can delve into naughtier topics of conversation during your chats. Is there a fantasy you’ve both talked about before, but haven’t quite hashed it all out? Here are some ideas to get the home fires burning.

  • I don’t like sitting here at work when I could be at home doing filthy things to you.
  • Why can’t I just be lying beside you in bed instead of studying/working
  • I have a surprise for you later tonight…I think you’re going to like it!
  • If I could only wear three items of clothing or less tonight, what would you choose for me? 
  • I just laid in bed for the last hour thinking about you…guess what I was doing!
  • I just found this cool sex site on the internet…it gave me some awesome ideas for later!
  • I just thought of a new position that I really want to try with you. Want to hear about it?
  • I miss feeling your hands all over me, ripping my clothes off, and having your way with me.
  • Remember when we talked about trying bondage? Would you like to hear my thoughts?

When you aren’t able to spend as much time with your partner as you’d like, it can be incredibly frustrating. Thankfully, you can still keep them thinking about you constantly with the right sexy text messages. These sexting chat messages also have the added benefit of making them want to spend more time together and delving into all the possibilities.

  • I had an exciting dream about you last night and have been replaying it in my head all day.
  • I’m so turned on thinking about seeing you later.
  • I miss having your arms around me
  • I was thinking about you in the shower this morning!
  • I miss you dominating me.

Tell A Story Through Naughty Dirty Text Messages

Sending your partner short, naughty text messages is ideal for giving them a little burst of excitement. But you don’t have to stop at one-liners. Sending them longer dirty, sexy messages, even full-blown stories, is a great way to keep them coming back for more. Painting a story for your partner isn’t difficult. Just tell them what you plan to do with them later, and draw it out for as long as you can. You can be explicit if that’s how you two talk to one another, or you can be subtle. Let their mind fill in the blanks.

“Sexting can be a great way to connect intimately with a partner when you are not together in the same location, when you are wanting to spice up your sex life, or when you are exploring your own sexuality or your sexuality with a new partner,” says psychotherapist Melissa Coats, and it’s true. No matter how you type it, sexting chat is supposed to be fun and exciting. 

Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Whether you’re new to sexting, or a pro, bringing it into your relationship can change the game for you both. It brings something exciting to your day, and hopefully, amps up your evenings! Try sending a naughty message to your partner today and see where it leads.  

Demeter DeLune

Demeter is a writer and sex positive blogger who’s been practicing what she preaches for longer than she’d like to admit. She’s the friend you have to warn your other friends about and channels that into her writing. She’s given advice all over the world, but still can’t get her cats to listen.

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