So you’re on Tinder, you’ve swiped right on a match and you’re hitting it off. But how do you jump from fun texts and goofy GIFs to an actual in-person date?
Clicking with someone online doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll click in real life, which is why it’s so important to transfer your charming convos to an in person meeting to see if there is, in fact, an actual spark. Making this transition can be tricky, though. Who should initiate the date? How do you know that your match will actually say yes to the date? How do you know when it’s the right moment to go from messaging to dating?
Well, the truth is, it’s tough to say when the best time is to ask someone out on a date is, but you definitely won’t know if you don’t try. And hopefully with these tips, you’ll be able to switch your flirty banter from online to offline.
Find a common interest.
What do you have in common that would be a good jumping off point to ask your match out on a date? Do you share the same taste in music? Are you both obsessed with #TacoTuesday? Then let that be your entry point. Maybe say something like, “So I hear the burritos at [insert Mexican restaurant] are supposed to be pretty epic. Interested in trying them together sometime?”
Offer to continue a story in person.
You’re messaging back and forth about a fantastic travel story, and you know you’ve got your match’s full attention. This is a perfect time to save some of that magic you’re creating by building a little mystery. Leave them with a cliffhanger, and then say, “I gotta run, but I’d love to continue sharing this story with you in person.”
Let’s be honest: finding someone you genuinely click with on a dating app is hard. The chances of you having chemistry with someone over text is slim, which is why you know that you’ve found a diamond in the rough if you’re really jiving with someone on Tinder. So let your match know how much you appreciate them. Don’t be afraid to get a little vulnerable and tell them, “I’m really happy to have met you on here. You seem like a really cool person that I’d like to hang out with in real life. Can we make that happen?”
Make them ask you.
While this is a pretty cheeky move, it could get you the result you want—or at least the answer you need. Reverse psychology works in many different scenarios, so it can’t hurt if you try to incorporate it into your dating life. Say something like, “You’re so cute and awesome and have so much going on that I bet you don’t have the time to go out on a date with me.” This tactic not only stealthily demonstrates your interest, but it also puts the ball in their court.
Just go for it.
Asking someone out on a date can be nerve-wrecking, which is why it helps to dabble with cute tricks to see if your match will take the bait. No harm, no foul, right? But sometimes honesty really is the best policy. If you want to ask someone out on a date, then just go for it. If you like someone enough to want to connect in person, say exactly that. After all, honesty and clear communication are the cornerstones of a solid relationship.
And, truthfully, most people would prefer someone be open with their intentions than drag out a never-ending texting session with someone who has no desire in moving things forward. Tell them, “I’ve loved talking to you over these last couple of weeks. I want to take you out on a date and see where this goes.” Short and sweet, and straight to the point.
So when it comes to turning your Tinder match into a real date, remember to connect with them on a real and authentic level. Keep it light and flirty, but keep it honest. Because you’ll never known if you don’t ask.